Post # 1
I’m in a bit of a pickle and I’m a little concerned about it (though I don’t know if I should be!)
My family and I recently moved (April). Though we are now in a new parish, we rarely go to that church because my parents choose to go to Mass with my grandmother at her assisted living home. I don’t frequently go to Mass, but when I do, I go with them at the assisted living. I’m trying to reserve the church on my college’s campus for my wedding, but I have to get a letter of permission from my parish priest to allow me to marry outside of my parish. What do I do?! Again, I have been to my new “parish church” maybe once. I just called and left a voicemail explaining that I recently moved here and want to marry outside of the parish…but I’m afraid they’re going to say “Sorry, Charlie!” Anyone else had to deal with this?
Post # 4
Have you registered with the new church? If not, I would consider the old church your parish church and call them to get a letter. If you are registered with the new church, they should be able to write you a letter, even if you only attended there once.
Post # 5
What Mrs. Spring said. I went through pretty much the same thing. The priest emailed me and said he wasn’t sure because he hadn’t ever met me before, but he wrote and sent the letter anyway. It worked out.
Post # 6
We live within five miles of six different Catholic churches so we never joined a parish and just went to whatever mass worked with our schedule. When we got engaged we knew we wanted to get married in a downtown church and not any of the ones near our house. I found out which parish was officially ours and filled out the paperwork to join. I then told the priest we wanted to marry outside the parish and needed him to sign the paperwork; he didn’t have a problem with it. We had an extra cause for concern because we actually had to provide our own officiant. I explained to the priest that we had been going to all the local churches since moving to the area six months prior, he was totally fine with it. We started working with the deacon of our new parish and he is the one who will be marrying us. We make a point to go to mass at “our parish” church now since we are getting married by the deacon but as soon as the wedding is over we are going back to one of the other local churches that we much prefer!
Post # 7
yeah, we have to provide our own officiant as well. thanks for everyone’s help! and check out the church! 🙂
Post # 8
@LizLemon: Stunning church!
Post # 9
I had to get a letter from “my” parish priest as well. I moved to my town three years ago and sometimes go to that church and sometimes go to another church. I don’t go to church every week either so I was certain the priest had “my” church had no idea who I was. I put my quotes because I never formally joined the parish. I was nervous to call and get the letter and the priest was really nice. I am sure he knew I wasn’t in regular attendance and all he said was that we should say hello sometime after mass.
Post # 10
THATS HOLY NAME @ Loyola New Orelans my alma mater!
Post # 11
I’ve been in my parish for about a year, and my priest requested we give him letters from our parents saying we are free to marry.
Post # 12
@ignatiangal: WOOOO GO WOLFPACK! I was a Loyola Grad, too! When did you graduate!?! I was 2010. Do I know you?!
Everyone, it ended up working out! My “new” geographical parish didn’t seem to have any problem writing me a letter…once they finally answered the phone! 🙂