(Closed) Letting FI and Mom plan the wedding

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

why dont you just go to town hall?

Post # 5
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Honey bee

Are you and your fiance paying for the wedding? Thats nice that your mom wants to help, but the wedding should be about what you and your fiance want…not your mom.

What about a compromise between eloping and a huge wedding and just having a small-close family and friends-ceremony and then dinner at a nice restaurant? Or a catered backyard reception?

I understand being overwhelmed with wedding planning, but there is a middle ground between a huge bash and eloping. I think you and your fiance should figure out something else. Weddings should be fun and exciting for the couple…not something you hate.

Post # 6
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@GaN12: Thats too bad, I understand where your coming from. I guess all you can really do is sit down and say… I want to marry you-we can go to town hall, or you can plan a wedding.. if you keep asking me about it im not showing up.

Thats what I would say! I HATE being told what to do like that.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Tell your Mom what you really want.  If you just want a small wedding but she wants the party, agree to a small wedding w/ a larger “Welcome to the Family” party @ another day. 

See if they can switch to a destination wedding so you can @ least enjoy yourself @ your wedding.  Also you will be able to cutdown on the # of guests.

Your day should be a special day for you so tell them exactly what you envision.  I know that they are frustrating you but stick your ground.  Mom just needs to realize that its your day.  And if she really wants to plan a big wedding, she can always be a wedding planner. 

Good Luck!!!!

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