Post # 1
Hey everyone I am hoping some of you may be able to help me out.
First off I want to say, I have never been a jewlery person. I never wear any in daily life, did not want an e-ring, ect. But I have always wanted my wedding ring to be special. I wanted a pretty ring with gemstones in it.
Well a few weeks ago I realized something. I am going into nursing, and I really hadn’t thought much about how nursing/nursing school could effect my ring choices. Well after doing some research I learned that I will be required to have a plain band or nothing at all. (and by plain band I mean plain, no stones, no special groves, ect.)
The thought of having to take my ring off day after day hurts me. I will be proud to wear that ring day in and day out, and I really do not want to have to take it off. The ability to wear it all the time means more to me then having the ring of my dreams. I recognize this.
But I can’t seem to let go of my ring dreams. I look at plain bands and i just get so sad. I just can’t seem to let go of my dream.
Has anyone else gone though this? How do I just let this go already?
Post # 3
That stinks! Why not get two bands – one plain to wear at work, the other your dream gemstone band that you you on a necklace while at work. There are very nice ring necklace charms that make putting your ring on/off a snap and it stays close to your heart when not on your finger.
Post # 4
@solsticedark: I am a nurse too so I can relate, but also tell you, it’s not that big a deal. Get the ring your heart desires…but also get a cheap stunt double for class and work. In my case I got a 4 mm stainless steel comfort for band off Amazon for like $12? I think.
there are so many more hours when you’re NOT at work that you’ll be able to wear and enjoy your dream ring. There is absolutely NO reason in the world why you shouldn’t get the one you love!!!
Post # 5
@solsticedark: Do you already have an engagement ring? I’m not sure from your post. If not, I would get a plain wedding band to wear daily and a sparkly e-ring you love which looks also great with the plain band, for example if the e-ring itself has a plain shank.
Or, if you already have an e-ring, I would get a thinner plain band for work, plus your dream gemstone band either now or for an anniversary. In the UK many women wear 3 bands on one finger (often because plain wedding rings are the norm and then when the couple is better established they get a sparkly anniversary ring). Often these are worn with the plain band in the middle of the 3, with the anniversary band on the bottom and the e-ring on top. That way you get your dream band AND you have band you can wear daily.
I do understand what you mean about wanting to wear the wedding ring all the time. I feel the same way. I know switching sets seems to be the norm on the bee but I want to wear the very ring he puts on my finger in the ceremony all day every day! That’s why I’d choose your other ring(s) so that they work with the plain band.
ETA: Can you not even have some engraving on it? Not grooves but a light pattern to add some interest?
Post # 6
@Sweetjennygirl This may sound really silly, but I’m afraid that switching back and forth will affect the meaning somehow. Wow seeing that in writing I know how silly that probably sounds.
How do you handle the two rings? Do you wear your real one around your neck or do you hide it somewhere? The whole two ring concept sorta confuses me. (again I never wear jewlery so two rings will be a lot for me.)
The necklace idea is nice, but with me not being used to wearing a necklace I’m not sure how well I would be able to adjust to that.
Post # 7
@Audrey2: I don’t have an e-ring because I didn’t want one.
The light engraving is even fround upon at the schools I am looking at when they say they want plain they mean it. (Understandable anything germs can get into is bad.)
Stacking rings I supoose could be an option, but it goes back to how would I deal with the other rings at work/school?
The logistics of the multipul rings honestly makes my head hurt a bit. Sorry I’m just not used to dealing with stuff like this. I don’t even own a jewlery box. X_X
Edit: I also just want to say thank you everyone so far for understanding and helping me out with this. I feel so silly in my head about this that it help to hear from others that I’m not just being really silly. And helping me find a solution.
Post # 8
@solsticedark: I keep my good jewelry at home, always. I understand that feeling at first that you never want to take off your precious….but honestly that subsides, and yes, it is a silly girl feeling. Fact of the matter is, your peers don’t care one way or another! So, you either wear “a” symbol that your married, or you don’t. I DO NOT reccomend the ring on a chain idea at all…about the time an aggrevated patient grabs it and it goes flying across the room or worse, you’ll regret it. Also, with lanyards, scopes and all the other gear you end up wearing for your job, it’s just too much. My best advice is, work on “getting over it” seriously. Sorry to pee in your Cheerios, but in the grand scheme of things, when you’re a nurse….you’re a nurse and that’s all that matters, whether you’re “decorated” or not.
Post # 9
Here’s what I’d do because I do understand the significance of wanting to wear the ring your husband puts on your finger. You have 2 rings at the wedding, one plain gold band and the other the more sparkly option you really want. There’s no reason why he can’t put both rings on your finger together. Then, when you are at work you wear the plain band. Outside work you wear the sparkly one. Both rings have the same significance.
Post # 10
Maybe not quite the same, but actually I don’t wear my engagement ring 100%. I wear it when I’m not going to get my hands dirty or sweaty, and if it’s not too hot. I’m actually only now getting used to wearing it on the weekends, as previously I only wore my RHR/promise rings and watch to work/out. That means I don’t wear it: sleeping, exercising, in the shower, gardening, cooking… Most times I change into something more casual after work, and often take my jewelery off immediately as I get home, eg. if I go run as I get home. I don’t go and put it back on afterwards as then I’m usually going to shower, cook then sleep. If I’m going to see people I’d put it back on. My e-ring is a low-profile 3-stone, so hardly even gets caught on anything.
As for work I’m an office-job, sometimes doing ECG/EEG on people and it’s fine. More gritty stuff for nursing I’m not sure about it. I’m more concerned to not get it dirty or grimy from sweat/garden dirt etc.
I think changing the rings out for work isn’t a problem, if you want to keep wearing A ring at work. Otherwise I am also considering (if I change career to become a doctor in the next few years) to get a necklace to put the ring on that while working. My importance is on the committment to my partner rather than the ring on my finger.
BTW, I wanted to know is it a regulation/law that you can only wear plain bands? Otherwise channel-set rings are also reasonably plain, flat and nothing sticking out that can get caught on anything.
Post # 11
I think @Audrey2: has a great idea. A plain as plain can be wedding band that never, ever comes off. Then out of work add your dream band to it. You can still have a wedding band style ring if that is what you like, but just wear it when your out of work. One is the sentimental stays on and the other, just leave at home in its box when your at school/working.
Post # 12
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I know nurses typically have constraints with gloves etc, but this constraint seems extreme. Is this your employer? You could do a bezel set ring, or bezel set with mokume. These are much flatter and shouldnt impact wearing gloves.
Post # 13
@solsticedark: I don’t think that it’s a big deal to take off a ring, but that’s just me. I’d probably get the band that I want and then not wear it when I’m at work. I take off my engagement ring plenty of times (beach, pool, cleaning, etc.) and my fiance isn’t phased by it.
Post # 14
@dewingedpixie: I second mokume gane if you want patterns with no texture changes.
Post # 15
@Sweetjennygirl Thats not peeing in my Cheerios at all, what you said is exactally what I realized. Its just getting over the feeling of it. (It really just had not even dawned on me about jewlery sense I never wear any)
The wearing the ring at work is more about the importance to me then anything else. I could careless if they notice or not, but its important to me to wear it not matter how it looks.
@Steampunkbride: Ok I LOVE that idea. Because it is the specialness of the ring he puts on my finger on our wedding day that eats me up about the whole thing. I seriously could hug you right now that sounds absolutly perfect.
@OzGirl: Its more about the fact that anything other then a plain band can harbor bacteria ect, while a plain band can easily be cleaned and disinfected.
Post # 16
@FoxyBride14: For me its just a personal thing. My FI has already agreed to support me on whatever decision I make regarding my ring.