(Closed) Letting people know they're welcom but not obligated to attend our DW

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
Hostess
8580 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Are you invitations? I think that’s a pretty good way of inviting everyone. Obviously, people who don’t have the time or funds available won’t be able to make it, and they’ll understand [although they could be slightly disapointed], these things happen with DWs.

Post # 4
Member
5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Send them invitations.  They can decide whether or RSVP ‘yes’ or ‘no’… an invitation is never a requirement, so they shouldn’t feel obligated to come even if they’re invited. 

Post # 5
Member
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

How many invitations are you sending? If it’s only a few you could include a personal note saying that you’d be thrilled if they can come but no hard feelings if not. If you have a lot I’d do normal invitations and just by word of mouth as you talk to people make it clear that you won’t have your feelings hurt if they can’t attend for any reason.

Post # 6
Member
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I will be sending invites out but not until later so I’ve just told everyone personally…that way they have time to save money if they are coming.

Post # 7
Member
1455 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I sent and personally delivered invitations. With people we were not as close to I figured it was implied, but with close family members I said something like “We’d love for you to come, but understand if you can’t, Hawaii is expensive!” and I think they all understood. 

Post # 8
Member
5243 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We sent out email save the dates and wedding info and prices. We also told people by word of mouth first and let them know we understood if they weren’t able to make it. It seemed to work out well that way

Post # 9
Member
1770 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree with others, just send invitations to those you want there. I feel very similarly about our DW, I would love if everyone could come, but understand it’s a lot to ask. I don’t think your guests will feel obligated to come just because they’re invited.

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