Post # 1
So im letting my BM choose there own dresses as long as each of them match in color. All my girls are different sizes and some are plus size and are very insucure.
How do i let them choose the dress they want, WITH me having a say in it as well. I dont want something completly different then everyone else. But i dont want to be a bridezilla lol. I’m the kind of person who trys to make everyone happy.
Post # 3
I just told my bridesmaids to pick out a knee-length or longer black dress that they felt great in. Two of them already have their dresses picked out and they look great!
Post # 4
what about picking out 5 (or 10 or however many you want) dresses that come in your color and letting them choose from your options?
Post # 5
Can you narrow it down a bit more? I think it’s hard if there are no guidelines.
How about narrowing it down by color, brand, and/or length maybe? And then have them send you some of their suggestions within those guidelines and you can go from there.
Post # 6
I am choosing the color, designer, and fabric…basically the core of the dress. They can choose the cut, neckline, length etc. If you provide them with basic guidelines it will make it easier for everyone…you have to spell out your vision of the day and the look so that everyone’s on the same page. It doesn’t make you a bridezilla, BMs generally know and expect that a bride will have the most to do with dress selection.
Post # 7
LOL!! I had this SAME issue. So I picked out 5 dresses in different styles (stapless, with staps, a-line, etc). That way, you’ve prescreened what they wear and BMs pick a dress that they actually feel good in.
Post # 8
I agree with Sparkle.
Why don’t you go with David’s Bridal? They do a good job of matching colors, but have so many different styles. You could even select a few different styles that they can choose from and when they go in to pick a dress, the salesperson can have that information saved for you and them. This way you can limit the choices to dresses you approve of.
I had thought about allowing everyone to do a different style, but since they are wearing black, I thought this would look like everyone was just wearing any ‘ol dress! I am letting them have a significat say, but I am also very busy researching, trying to find a dress that would look on many body types. In the ends, they all are going to be wearing the same dress.
Post # 9
I just went out to a few bridal shops with my sisters in tow and when I found a designer that had enough dresses I liked (wanted to have at least 4 options) with color options I liked, I made a list of their choices. There are 6 girls total and I just didn’t want the headache of loading up all the girls & moms and starting at square one with the dress hunt. I think I ended up with about 8 for the girls to choose from. It was great for us because they’re all the same fabric and color, but they each got to pick something they’re completely comfortable in.
I’d suggest scouting out a few BM dress lines on your own to narrow it down a little and THEN bring them in for input. At least for me, it was a lot less overwhelming to just focus and power-browse. Good luck!
Post # 10
awesome! thanks girls i didnt think about doing that! So much better. We were looking at doing davids bridal unless we saw somewhere else. But me choosing 10 dresses and let everyone choose makes me feel a lot better!
Post # 11
I picked the designer, fabric and color and let the girls pick whichever dress they wanted. I figured those guidelines were enough to create a cohesive look for the bridal party, and I’m gettig them matching jewelry. I wanted everyone to feel comfortable and confident, and I think the best way to do that is let them pick the most flattering style for their shape. I had wanted everyone to wear floor length gowns, but I ended up with 2 coctail and 2 full length. I attached 90 million photos of what everyone’s wearing…
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Post # 12
Why don’t you plan a girls day out? That’s what I did 🙂
I told the girls they could pick their dresses, they just had to be the same color and fabric. I even let them have a say in the color itself, which gave them more options. We all went to a few different bridal salons and they tried on a BUNCH of dresses. At the last stop, they all fell in love with one particular dress which I never expected!
Post # 13
I did the same thing, I picked seperate pieces from alfred angelo, but I picked the length of the dress and let them pick the top. At times I wish i would have said tough S*#$ this is the dress you are going to wear, but I was mindful of the fact I have a size 0 girl and then like a plus size girl. So I was too afraid to pick ONE STYLE! Just break it down, choose th color, the length (if you care about length) and then with or without bows or ribbons or beading. Just say is you want it all simple, make it all simple, or if you dont care if it has beading and what not on it, then go for it! I mean if you are letting them pick the style that pretty awesome, so if you get picky about whats ON IT, thats at least still given them OPTION! If anything, just pick a designer, and the color, and then make a big list of ones you are OK with that they can choose from!