Post # 1
Has anyone had to let thier dad down about walking them down the aisle? I am going to have my 7 year old son walk me down the aisle instea . However, my dad seems so excited to get to do this. Is there a good way to let them down easy? I am sure he will understand either way though
Post # 3
What if you have both of them walk you down the aisle? Or you could have your son walk in front of you while your dad is next to you.
Post # 4
I agree that maybe they could both do it? Sounds like it’s important to your dad.
If that’s not an option, is there another way you could honor him?
Post # 5
My Dad would be truly devastated if I chose anyone other than him to walk me down the aisle. Is there any particular reason why you’re having your son do it instead of your Dad?
Post # 6
Have both and you in between!! What could be better?
Post # 7
I agree with the other commenters…why don’t you have both walk you down the aisle? Or have one walk you up the 1st half and the other take over from there?
Post # 8
I agree with the other bees too. No reason to let down your dad if not necessary?
Let us know if there’s info we aren’t aware of. 🙂
Post # 9
I like the idea of having my dad walking me half way and then my son finish off. The main reason I want my son to walk me down the aisle is because I feel like he is the biggest male role in my life and it is really up to him to give me away.
My background with my dad has always been a little off. My parents got divorced when I was 2 and my mom is the person that really raced me. My dad was always an on again off again relationship. He has been around for the last 10 years I guess.
Post # 10
I think you should do whatever you are most comfortable with and what means the most to you. You could explain to your dad that it is important to have your son do it, that it involves him in a very special way and is symbolic of your newly formed family. Would that help him understand? Is there another way you would want to involve your dad?
[My only experience with this is my first marriage. I just explained to my biological dad that someone else (my mom) was walking me down. For me, he didn’t get a vote because it was my decision about what was important and symbolic to me. As I prepare to get married to the most amazing man I have ever known, I will probably walk alone and, again, not give my biological dad a vote. My connection to him does not warrant sharing this experience in that way.]
Post # 11
I haven’t told him yet, but will soon inform my dad that he is not walking me down the aisle. Then, I’ll do it again with my stepdad. It’s really going to be hard with both of them, and I know they’ll both be upset, but they’ll have to live with it. I would make them both happy if I could, but I can’t- so my FI and I are going to walk down the aisle together.
I think you should do what you are most comfortable with. If your relationship with your dad has been on-and-off (I totally know what that’s like!), then he doesn’t get automatic “dibs” on walking you down the aisle. Explain gently and kindly to him that you’d like your son to do it, and don’t get too upset if he isn’t happy with your decision. If you’re close enough to him, it might also be good if you could give him another role- like the father daughter dance, or a speech, or something else that would give him a special moment.
Post # 13
So today my dad brought this up and I had to let him down. He did not take it well and is upset. This has me second guessing on if I should just give in and go with the norm. I know my my mom have her feelings hurt too though if my dad gives me away since she is the one that really has raised me. ARGH what is a girl to do
Post # 14
I had my Dad walk me down the asile and when I got to the first row my mom stood up and joined us. Then they both said “We do” when asked who give’s the bride away. I think my mom really liked being involved. I’m glad I had my Dad walk with me because it helped relieve my anixety about tripping and falling.
Could you have your parents and son do the same thing? Have them all stand up with you at the altar and say We Do. That way they all feel involved in giving you away.