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What are everyone's thoughts on letting your FI see your dress before the big day??
I've purchased Casablanca 1900. I originally planned on having it shortened to be tea length. But the more and more I look at it I feel like I shouldn't get rid of so much of a beautiful dress.
So anyway, I'm soooo tempted to show my FI a picture of my dress to get his opinion on whether or not I should shorten the dress or not.
Are you letting your FI see your dress before your wedding??
Nope, not going to happen. I did show him pictures of the dresses that I didn't pick though.
I don't think its that big of a deal. I did show him the picture on the model though.. to get his idea of the sash/the amount of tulle on the dress. He loved it. I know the dress will look special/different to him on the big day anyways, so it didn't take away any sentiment.
I am not going to let him see it and I don't think anyone should. The mystery is fun. Get the bee's opinons on the dress, thats why we are here ;) well help ya out
I sooo badly want him to see it, so i'll know if he likes it! Then to magically forget it because I can't wait to see his face when I appear at the end of the aisle. sigh. He however is 100% against seeing it till the big day.
Just wish we could somehow know!
@ashkat: No, but I did search obsessively for pictures and discuss it with my MOH and FMIL in front of him. He has seen the dress on other people (unless he really doesn't pay attention to what I do on my laptop when he is sitting next to me) and he has heard me discuss it at length with my MOH (when I was debating buying it without trying it on because I got a deal online) and with FMIL. So in short, no, but only just barely.
I honestly couldn't care less, but FI wanted to keep this *one* traditional aspect. haha. We're not a super traditional couple (walking down the aisle together, after all) but he said he wanted to be surprised. He's asked to see it since then, but I remind him that he didn't want to. lol. It's kind of cute I guess.
He won't be getting any hints other than "white" "ivory" "long" "not poofy." Haha.
I showed him today. I couldn't help myself. He wanted to wait until our wedding day, but we're doing a courthouse wedding now so I just gave in.
nope he has no idea at all, keeps trying to guess and trick me but he can wait only another 2 months left
Its been really really difficult to keep such a huge thing from my FI, but no I don't want him to know anything about it. I don't even let him know which dress styles I don't like and like, so he has no idea. However I doubt it would make much of a difference, because men don't see much difference per dress. (Its like this old commercial I saw about a woman shopping for black heels: every shoe she looked at was totally different, but when it showed her husband's perspective they all looked like a basic black pair of pumps. I cannot find it on youtube because I don't know what the commerical was for lol)
However on the issue of weather or not to shorten your dress, I'd say if you are doubting it, don't. When else can you wear a long wedding gown?
I showed my husband pictures of my dress, but he did not see me in it before the wedding. The superstition is him seeing you iN it before the wedding! I say go right ahead and let him see it!
He helped me choose it...I'm not traditional and neither is he
I was torn as well but have decided to wait until our wedding day. Not because of traditions or superstitions, but because I can't wait for everyone to see his reaction when he does see me in my dress for the first time.
I also like the idea of at least some element of a surprise since we are doing all of the other planning together. :)
Nope. He did accidentally see it and I was bummed until he made a comment about the sleeves on my dress... my dress is strapless lol! I'm pretty sure he retained no details, and I'm going to keep it that way.
I am not showing FI, but even if I wanted to he won't let me! He has been pretty traditional about the whole dress thing and doesn't want to see it until I walk down the aisle towards him!
FI has seen mine. His opinion means a lot to me. I know he would basically like anything I wore, but I really wanted to choose one that would make him go "wow. you must wear this dress."
For this reason, I chose three possible dresses and showed him pictures (on models). His favorite and my favorited ended up being the same, which worked out well. Our one stipulation is that he won't be able to see me in the dress until the big day. (Though he ended up seeing a pic of me in my dress on my cell phone last week, it flashed for like a half second as my phone was acting up when I was trying to show him other pictures. Blasted!)
I don't feel terribly strongly about it, but my fiance refuses to look or listen to anything about wedding dresses I've looked at! When we were at my mom's this Christmas, she wanted me to try on her old wedding dress, and when I came out to the living room for them to see, he kept his head buried in his laptop. Even though it's not my dress, and is NOTHING like my dress, he didn't want to see me in ANY wedding dress. He also is against a first look and doesn't want to see me in the dress until I'm walking down the aisle. I think it's cute. :)
I've shown my fiance pictures of gowns that I like, but I'm not going to let him see the one I end up picking. We're both pretty laid back and we're not super traditional. This is the one aspect though, that we both agree that we'd like to be traditional on. We're not even going to do first look pics. The first time he sees me in it will be when I'm walking down the aisle.
That being said, I see absolutely nothing wrong with showing your fiance your gown ahead of time. It is completely up to you and what you feel comfortable with.
Personally, I wouldn't mind if he saw it....
BUT my FI is insistant that he not even have a clue about what it looks like!
he picked out the dress with me so he already saw it haha...
We are okay one way or another but he is picky about the dress (surprisingly) when I looked through websites and wedding magazines. So I figured to bring him along so he won't say my dress is ugly :P
He only saw me in it when we order the dress for my size, so he never saw me in it after I got it delivered. Maybe I will keep that as a surprise :)
I wish I had taken my FI with me when I dress shopped. I've been plagued with indecision and dress regret since I purchased it last June. My FI helps me shop for all my clothes and neither of us is traditional, so I don't know why I let everyone talk me into leaving him at home.
as soon as i got the dress home i tried it on fo him. He also carried it to on the plane & helped me get ready before the ceremony.
personally i dont think its a big deal but thats just me :)
My FI was there when I tried on the dress. I got my dress at during a clearance sale and we happened to walk past the store and decided to just have a look. I ended up buying the very first dress I tried on. Fell in love and couldn't pass up the deal!
I know it's going to be so hard to not give him any hints or show pictures of it, but I plan on keeping my a secret! My FI's sister, who is also engaged, won't show ANYONE pictures of hers.
@sodapopfizz: Same here!
I REFUSE to show my FI my dress. Not a chance or a hope in hell! That being said, at moments I get SO EXCITED about wearing it that I just have to contain myself from digging up the pics of me in it and screaming "LOOK HOW GORGEOUS I AM!!!"
He has, however, seen my veil (I made it and am hand beading it), hair clip (thinking about hand making it), and is helping me find shoes (begrudgingly!).
He went shopping with me. I didn't have any family on this side of the country to help me, and I was new to the area so I didn't know any girlfriends to take with me yet. I'm glad he went...he is opinionated and I wanted his honest input. He basically picked my dress for me (out of the ones I liked the most), because he got misty eyed in the bridal salon when I came out with it on...so at least I already knew his reaction!!
So far my FI has been really involved in the wedding dress process - she's seen pictures of all my inspiration and I've shown her in detail every stop of the creative process (I'm making mine.) However, the other day for the first time I felt a twinge of desire to surprise her on our wedding day, so I may decide to stop and not to share the final product with her until then. I know she loooves my dress so far but I want her to be blown away with the details and seeing my dress and my whole wedding look come together.
Oooo, this one is a toughie! My bestie and her FI are getting married in April and he won't have anyone talking about her dress around him. She recently changed her mind on her dress and I hadn't seen the new one and asked "is it such and such a length?" and he plugged his ears like a child LOL!
Whereas, my FI and I are getting married next year and I've shown him dresses I've liked, to get his opinion. Im now deciding between two dresses and he's seen both and knows it'll be one of those. I love that he's open to helping me decide, as our tastes can be so very different sometimes and I want to look gorgeous for him (would be just my luck I'd pick a dress he hates otherwise, haha! Though, he has said he thinks I'll be beautiful in anything *awwww*). His only request has been "nothing sexy sexy" as he wants to be able to concentrate hahaha!
Also, Im not worried about him seeing the two dresses I'm looking at (Maggie Sottero's Sarchi and Symphony), because he won't know which one I'll end up with and he's only seen them on the model. Plus it's not like he's seen how I'll have my hair, what accessories etc which can make SUCH a difference :)
My FI doesn't want pre-wedding photos though, so we're going to be traditional with him only seeing me when I walk down the aisle :) I can't wait!!!
FI saw mine... and me in it... but before it was altered to fit. But ... we are getting married just the two of us anyway ... sooooo
If we were having a real wedding, I probably wouldn't let him see and I know he wouldn't want to.
The first time FI will see my dress is when I walk down the aisle toward him.
Mine is on its way to his house at the moment (since shipping to his place in the US was way cheaper than to mine in Canada). He's already seen pictures and I need him to open the package to check it out, anyway. I don't mind much.
FI has seen the dress, just not on me. Like some of the other bees, he picked it out of a lineup and said "that one is you." Luckily it was my favorite. Now it sits happily in our closet waiting to be altered.
Nope! All he knows it that it's ivory (I told him beforehand that I was not going to wear white), but I want him to be surprised. Actually, I want EVERYbody to be surprised (it's "Old Hollywood"), so the only people who've seen it were my 2 attendants, my Mom and her best friend, and they're the only ones who will.
I showed my FI pictures of me in the dress and it's been one of the best wedding planning decisions I've made so far! I was so unsure about buying my dress and felt worried that he wouldn't like it. Finally I just asked him if I could show him a picture. He knew he wasn't "supposed to" haha but he looked and he loved the dress. I bought it and haven't looked back! It's not like he's seen it on me in person and I certainly didn't have my hair or makeup done in the pictures, so I'm not worried about him being surprised or "seeing me for the first time" in my dress on our wedding day. Plus, he's a guy and he's probably always forgotten what it looked like. ;)
I'm not sure exactly what the big deal is about the tradition of not seeing the dress, but I think it's up to the couple. I went shopping alone but when I wasn't finding anything I liked, I asked if FI wanted to come. We stopped into a few shops and I ended up finding one I loved (and he loved) that I ended up buying later. He has no idea, however, that he's already seen me in it. Since that day, he asked me not to tell him what my final choice was so we will have some element of surprise!
My FI came with me to pick my dress out. He even took pictures of me in it. He paid for it he might as well have a say in which one I picked. We do everything together so I don't see why this would have been any different. I'm so glad I had his help and opinion he knows me better than anyone else.
I decided to show my FI a picture of the top 2 dresses that I thought I wanted. I showed him a few pictures of models in wedding dresses online and mixed in the ones that I liked with those, this way he wouldn't know. He ended up not liking the dresses I had picked. It broke my heart but was a blessing in disguise because I ended up continuing my search (I couldn't consciously choose a dress that I knew he didn't like) and actually found a dress that I loved even more, which I have purchased. I don't want him to see what I look like in it until the big day (we are planning to do first look) but I have also decided not to show him a pic of it on the model either. I know that he will love whatever I choose to wear (and he has also told me this) so I have decided to stop getting his input. Besides, the dress on a model looks much different then on most people so I feel that it is not a true representation.
I am not superstitious towards this however, he willstill not be seeing the dress... i want him to be surprised
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