(Closed) Letting your FI see your dress??

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nope, not going to happen. I did show him pictures of the dresses that I didn’t pick though. 

Post # 4
3261 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think its that big of a deal. I did show him the picture on the model though.. to get his idea of the sash/the amount of tulle on the dress. He loved it. I know the dress will look special/different to him on the big day anyways, so it didn’t take away any sentiment.

Post # 5
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I am not going to let him see it and I don’t think anyone should. The mystery is fun. Get the bee’s opinons on the dress, thats why we are here 😉 well help ya out

Post # 6
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I sooo badly want him to see it, so i’ll know if he likes it! Then to magically forget it because I can’t wait to see his face when I appear at the end of the aisle. sigh. He however is 100% against seeing it till the big day.

Just wish we could somehow know!

Post # 7
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ashkat:  No, but I did search obsessively for pictures and discuss it with my Maid/Matron of Honor and Future Mother-In-Law in front of him. He has seen the dress on other people (unless he really doesn’t pay attention to what I do on my laptop when he is sitting next to me) and he has heard me discuss it at length with my Maid/Matron of Honor (when I was debating buying it without trying it on because I got a deal online) and with Future Mother-In-Law. So in short, no, but only just barely.

Post # 8
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I honestly couldn’t care less, but Fiance wanted to keep this *one* traditional aspect. haha. We’re not a super traditional couple (walking down the aisle together, after all) but he said he wanted to be surprised. He’s asked to see it since then, but I remind him that he didn’t want to. lol. It’s kind of cute I guess.

Post # 9
3969 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

He won’t be getting any hints other than “white” “ivory” “long” “not poofy.” Haha.


Post # 10
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I showed him today.  I couldn’t help myself.  He wanted to wait until our wedding day, but we’re doing a courthouse wedding now so I just gave in.

Post # 11
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

nope he has no idea at all, keeps trying to guess and trick me but he can wait only another 2 months left

Post # 12
1999 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Its been really really difficult to keep such a huge thing from my Fiance, but no I don’t want him to know anything about it.  I don’t even let him know which dress styles I don’t like and like, so he has no idea.  However I doubt it would make much of a difference, because men don’t see much difference per dress. (Its like this old commercial I saw about a woman shopping for black heels:  every shoe she looked at was totally different, but when it showed her husband’s perspective they all looked like a basic black pair of pumps.  I cannot find it on youtube because I don’t know what the commerical was for lol)


However on the issue of weather or not to shorten your dress, I’d say if you are doubting it, don’t.  When else can you wear a long wedding gown?

Post # 13
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I showed my husband pictures of my dress, but he did not see me in it before the wedding.  The superstition is him seeing you iN it before the wedding!  I say go right ahead and let him see it!

Post # 14
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He helped me choose it…I’m not traditional and neither is he

Post # 15
44 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I was torn as well but have decided to wait until our wedding day. Not because of traditions or superstitions, but because I can’t wait for everyone to see his reaction when he does see me in my dress for the first time.

I also like the idea of at least some element of a surprise since we are doing all of the other planning together. 🙂

Post # 16
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Nope. He did accidentally see it and I was bummed until he made a comment about the sleeves on my dress… my dress is strapless lol! I’m pretty sure he retained no details, and I’m going to keep it that way.

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