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I always assumed I wouldn't, but I am now seriously considering wearing a veil!  My consultant pinned one in my hair and I felt it completed the "bridal" look.  Also, when else will I get to wear a piece of tulle on my head?!  However, something is holding me back--I am worried about what my guests will think.

What will you do or, for married Bees, what did you do?

I don't think being gay should affect whether or not you can wear a veil! I will probably be wearing a small birdcage veil, but I may skip it and go with a pretty headband or flower instead. I'm waiting to decide until my dress is done and I can see my whole 'look' together. However, it's strictly about aesthetics and personal preference for me - being gay doesn't really come into it.

Thank you both for your input!  I was surprised to realize that I wanted to wear a veil and even more surprised to find so much internal resistance to the idea.  I know I shouldn't worry about what others will think, but I do.

My dress is blush pink, and I got really excited about a pink veil, like this:

@moonadea:  Just looked up your dress and saw that you are wearing pink, too.  Can't wait to see the complete look!

An ally here, but I also say that if you want a veil, wear a veil!!! If you want to go all out and wear a blusher, wear a blusher!!!  For some people, putting on the veil just completes this magical, romantic look that they love--if it does that for you, why in the world would you talk yourself out of it?  Your guests won't think anything of it--you are a bride after all!

Thank you all for your encouragement!

Anyone who voted "no" want to chime in?

I don't think it's anybody's business (other than you and your FI) what you wear.

That being said, I stopped myself from getting a ballgown wedding dress partially because I knew I would be too worried about what my guests would think. I know I shouldn't care, but it's not that easy.

So I guess what I'm saying is that I think you would look awesome in a veil, and it's totally appropriate (LGBTQ shouldn't enter into it at all), BUT if you're going to be feeling self conscious, then it would be understandable if you decided not to wear it.

@Lemma:  You nailed it.  I don't want to feel self-conscious on my wedding day.

@CarolinaCola:  Gah, maybe I didn't word the poll right!  I just wanted to give folks a "no" option.

@BerryBerry:  Perhaps the veil is too heteronormative for an LGBTQ wedding?  I am already wearing a wedding dress, so no qualms there, but somehow the veil seems more....something.

@LittleRiver:  OMG i absolutely love your dress!!!! And I've been loving your ring since I saw it!! For my first wedding, to a man, I wore a gorgeous cathedral veil, which I loved. This time around, since our wedding won't be formal I will probably not wear one, or wear just a birdcage. I think you should do whatever your heart desires!!

@Cupcake2012:  Thank you for the kind words about my ring!  You are too sweet!  Sadly the Monique Lhuillier dress I posted above isn't my dress--although it probably would be if I had a spare $7k lying around!--it's just the inspiration for a pink veil.  Which I am now obsessed with.  I still think it may be too much for the ceremony, but I might buy one to wear for our "day after" pics around town.

@LittleRiver:  Ohhh Oops, I did not read the caption properly . . Wow it's a wonderful fantasy dress . . . .also in my dreams, not in my budget! That's a cool idea about the day after pics with the veil!

I voted no, but not because I think it's not appropriate, but because I don't like the look, and the tradition doesn't resonate with me.

I'm wearing an Elven-inpsired circlet, hand made from Etsy, like the one Arwen wore in Lord of the Rings.

Ally here as well - but I agree. Wear a veil if you want to! Its your day - everyone who will be there will be supporting you no matter what you do (I hope!) :)