Post # 1
As some of you might know, I’ve posted recently about my search to find bridesmaid dresses in one of my wedding colors, pewter gray. It turned out to be impossible, and so I decided to order the dresses in purple, which was technically one of our other wedding colors.
After I did this, I went crazy trying to think of other ways to incorporate gray, which I still thought of as one of our colors. I went so far as to debate getting table linens, which at $30 each (x 18 tables), are not cheap and not within our budget. I ran the idea by my Fiance and he said the smartest thing I’ve heard since I started wedding planning (or at least top 5!). He said, “How were you going to have gray in the room before you started mooning over these table linens?” I said, “Well, the bridesmaids were going to be in gray!” He said, “Honey, you think because you would have had four women walking around the reception in gray dresses, there would be “gray in the room”?” And then I had to laugh at myself, because he’s right! I have to stop thinking about my wedding as if it’s an inspiration board or a photo shoot and just remember that it’s a party and as long as everyone is comfortable and as long as people are having fun, it’ll photograph well and be beautiful.
So I have given up the idea of wedding colors–and feel SO much freer! No need to think about finding flowers in our “colors”–now I get to just go with whatever I like 🙂 It’s a much more fun way to plan! Anyone else been liberated from any wedding “musts”?
Post # 3
Thank you to you and your Fiance for truely inspiring words…
Post # 4
Aw, that’s sweet! Yeah, I drove myself crazy trying to incorporate themes/colors/ideas and then I realized that I don’t NEED all that stuff! You’re right, it really makes you feel better!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
Heck yeah!!! I had to remind myself that too. It’s not a photoshoot, it’s a wedding. It’s hard to remember, so have Fiance remind you a lot like I do. YAY
Post # 6
Ugh as someone in the midst of color-picking-indecision-hell, I love this post. Although at least you could decide on purple. I can’t decide on anything!
Post # 7
Great advice. As someone in the early planning stages, I too often think of my wedding in terms of an inspiration board as well. I nearly freaked out when my mother noted the shades of green in the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and the invitations didn’t match. My Fiance thinks wedding colors are a bit silly as well. We haven’t entirely thrown a “scheme” out of the window, but I’m loosening up on my need for everything to be exactly what I envisioned. No need sacrificing things you like for the sake of a scheme.
Like rachaelrobin said – thank you!
Post # 8
Here! Here! I just started out with base colors (black and white) and am throwing things together as I find them. First it was silver, then I added red, then I added aqua/turquoise. Ha. Who knows what it will be next!
Post # 9
@Corgi: I’ve been there! Just repeat my new mantra: “They’re only colors. They do not define me or my wedding. They’re only colors.” And I’ve seen the recent inspiration boards you’ve posted–they look gorgeous, so you definietly have nothing to worry about! 🙂
Post # 10
@jackiedee: totally! I am SO over worrying about shades and hues and all that stuff.