Post # 1
After reading a few threads about sex drive recently, and my own on-going doubts, does anyone else have really low libido?
I’m married to love of my life whom I adore, I take Cilest birth control (10-14yrs on it) and never had issues with it… But I’m just never interested in sex. It’s good and I enjoy it but totally “meh” about it. Could it be my pill? I tend to try to ensure we DTD once a week mostly for his sake but I never really initiate. I just feel sorry for my husband! We have discussed it and he says he’s happy but I don’t think I am, with myself.
Im only 25, I’ve felt like this for years.
Anyone feel the same? Advice?
Post # 3
It very well could be as easy as changing out your pill. Talk to your GYN and see what he recommends!
Post # 4
I felt that way all through my 20s and half into my 30s, and no pill, just MEH about sex. Then came 37 and VA VA VA VOOM.
Talk to your gyno, maybe some hormone level checks need to be done. Otherwise, relax.
Post # 5
I was on BCP for only 1.5 yrs and my libido absolutely tanked. I couldn’t get aroused, like at all. Finally when sex actually started to hurt I had had enough. We now use a combination of tracking my cycle, diaphragm & spermicide, and condoms on my fertile days. No hormones and I feel awesome again.
Post # 6
@lucyh2bee: I had a waaayyyy lower libido when I was on hormonal contraception! With it gone, I was like a whole new woman 🙂
Post # 7
@lucyh2bee: I came across this quote (I know it doesn’t apply to everyone so please don’t jump on me)
“for many women, desire is triggered by arousal, not the other way around. What this means is it is normal for some women to rarely feel desire or a “sex drive” apart from sexual activity. For many the norm is for foreplay to start arousal, with that arousal resulting in feeling desire.”
Our culture is pretty obessed with sex (let’s face it, it is awesome)… but I would tend to fall into this catergory myself, I love sex and enjoy it but don’t have frequent passionate urges throughout the day. I don’t think that makes us weird 😉
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2014 - Courthouse
Once I started birth control mine went wayyy down. I cant wait to get off of it after we get married. Two months and I can be as frisky as I wanna be! Normally I’m like a 18 year old boy, now I’m just sad. Haha
Post # 9
@lucyh2bee: I started to feel like that after being on a certain pill for about five or so years. I switched out pills twice, but nothing really seemed to totally work until I was completely off of it. Now that we’re TTC, I kinda wish that I would have gotten off it long before a year ago. However, we used condoms on top of BCP, so yeh, that made a difference.
But I do know that you can use herbs to kinda boost up your libido, or at least that’s what some people say. When I drink ginger tea, it seems to do something for me, so maybe look into that route?
Post # 9
lucyh2bee: I have the same issue with my boyfriend with whom I’ve been with for a little over a year, except it’s him that has the similar sex drive to you. He only wants to have sex once a week, sometimes if even that. I have made such an issue out of it we have almost broken up! He has low testosterone and says he doesn’t know if its that or just the pressure I’ve put on thats made it so infrequent. Honestly, I think some people just have a lower sex drive. I’ve read a lot about it and it says that some people are ok with even once or twice a month. How does he feel about this?