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    maisymay    December 19, 2009   morgan hill, ca

    Hey Bees!

       I was wondering, what are 3 things about marriage that have surprised you since you've gotten married? Just little things that you didn't think about?

    Here are mine:

    1) Moving the showerhead! My husband is 6'4" and every time I get in the shower I have to adjust it lower because I'm 5'7. Those 9 inches can really matter. We didn't live together before the wedding, so most of these are home related.

    2) Laundy and other chores! It seems like there are so many more chores to do, but that's okay, having Husband here is way better. :)

    3) Having my mom and MOH both comment about how weird it is to hear my new last name on my voicemail.

    Well Bees, what little things surprised you about married life?

     
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    snmcdowell    9-13-08   Chicago

    How quickly we go through bars of soap! Oh well, at least I know hubby is clean!

     
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    Miss Pinot Grigio    March 21, 2009   Indianapolis, IN

    We co-habitated for a couple of years prior to marriage, so not to many surprises. However, I was not prepared for:

    1) How many people would mispell & mispronounce my new last name! (My maiden name was so much easier.)

    2) How much we save, now that we're on the same car insurance & medical benefit plans! (Yay for more $$ in the bank!)

    2) How things mostly still feel the same. =)

     
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    stormy9973    October 3, 2009   Ottawa, KS

    1) How much more water we use now than before hubby moved in.

    2) How much more busy I am at nite than before.

    3) How easy it really is to live together and have someone to come home to!!

     
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    pren79    10/17/09   SF Bay Area

    1. He gets cold easily and now our household uses more heat.

    2. I didn't think about the fact that he will be falling into a lower tax bracket and I will be falling into a higher one by filing jointly. Overall beneficial but still, that's something that didn't occur to me.

    3. How much I'll be obsessing over building equity and retirement. Since united we're more powerful, we're having goals in mind that wouldn't otherwise occurred to me if we were single.

    4. How many dreary domestic errands there are to take care of!

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    How much more my husband sends me lovey texts and tells me he loves me!  We've always been very close, but since we got married, Wowza! Other than that, the only other thing that's different is trying to merge our finances. it's a pain in the toosh!

     
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    Miss Snowflake    August 8, 2009   Columbia, MO

    We lived together before getting married, soo....

    1) Strangers treat us differently. Servers, tellers, the car repair guys, everyone... it's almost like we are more respected because we are married. Then again, I do live in the Bible Belt. Go figure. :)

    2) Having to emphasize that our marriage is just that: ours. It's not our friends' marriages, it's not his parent's (failed) marriage, it's ours, and that makes it unique and special. I really had to come down remarks like "Well, So and So are married, and it is/isn't like that for them..." Drove me nuts!

    3) He was sort of a jealous kind of guy to begin with, but now that we are actually married, it's like WHOA! That's something we've had to deal with, and are still in the process of dealing with. "No, honey, I was NOT hitting on the pre-pubescent guy at the drive-thru window... and no, he wasn't hitting on me either."

     
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    maisymay    December 19, 2009   morgan hill, ca

    Ladies, anything else to add?

     
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    kayakgirl73    October 31, 2009   Virginia, (wedding in WV)

    1) How much more laundry there is. I lived with my Grandma after college and we didn't have as much laundry as my husband and I do. he goes thru so many shirts.

     

    2) Constanstly re-adjusting the stupid car seat and mirrors.

     

    30 How much cheaper some things are and how much expensive other things are.

     
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    MrsBradtobe    10/10/2009   New Zealand

    We lived together for a few years before getting married so not much has changed.

    Maybe only getting used to my new surname & trying to remember what companies I've changed my name on and which ones I haven't.

     
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    Adira    October 3, 2009   New England

    We lived together for three years and owned a home for five months before our wedding, so mine are:

    1. How much nothing has really changed
    2. How much I LOVE hearing him call me his wife (he never called me his fiancee when we were engaged)
    3. How content I finally am (after years of wanting to marry him, I finally am!)
     
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    maisymay    December 19, 2009   morgan hill, ca

    I love what you've added. I've thought of a lot more, but just wanted to add 2.

    1) How much closer I am to his parents and sister. I didn't think that relationship would change, but they treat me like a daughter/sister. I don't get along well with my own sis and his sis and I had a few issues during wedding planning, but it's great now.

    2) How much my rountine when I can't sleep has changed. I suffer from insomnia fairly often and I used to just lie in bed and read if I couldn't sleep. Now I go out in the living room and keep the lights low so that I would wake him...not better or worse, just different.

     

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