Post # 1
The last few years I have done CrossFit and lots of upper body work. I deployed with an elite group to Afghanistan and needed to be in extremely good shape. I love how strong and independent I feel, and am actually really proud of my arms…but they look freaking awful in a strapless gown. I have stopped wearing them a few years back, I just look too broad up top. I have a big muscular butt and thighs, as well…so I guess I have an hourglass shape? Anyways…even though I like to be a tomboy sometimes, I really want to look feminine and don’t know what to look for in a dress. I don’t really want to stop working out just for the wedding, it’s still quite a ways away and like I said…Im really proud of what I can do with my body.
We are newly engaged, there’s so many other things on my mind, but I can’t help to think of my dress! We’re thinking a country barn theme, or possibly marrying on top of a local mountain here.
Post # 2
BOSOXfan07: Congratulations on getting engaged!
Would you consider a dress with straps or cap sleeves? Straps will break up the impression of lots of shoulder and I think are way prettier than strapless dresses.
Look up a Queen Anne or jewel neckline. It is very pretty and because it has interesting lines around the neckline and shoulders, it might be just the thing for you.
Post # 3
BOSOXfan07: First of all, I’m sure you look fab!
Second of all, maybe just train your upper body with only body weight resistance up until the wedding (like pushups, pullups – without weights) then maybe they’ll kind of soften out but you won’t have to “let them go” by not working them out?
Post # 4
I think an off-the-shoulder look would be perfect. I by nature have broad shoulders (I only wish my arms were as awesome as it sounds like yours are!), and this has a very nice effect on my upper body.
Post # 5
First, don’t give up your rockin strong body to wear a certain kind of dress!! While strappless is popular, there are lots of options that have straps/sleees and it’s fairly easy to add straps to a strapless, if you find one that you love! Straps were actually a requirement for me as well and while it wasn’t always easy, I found a dress with straps that I loved!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard
Congrats on the engagement and on creating a strong body you are proud of! I have no thoughts on dresses, as I can’t even really dress myself. I just wanted to give you a high five for kicking *ss.
Post # 7
Thanks guys! This actually helps a ton…I looked up the queen anne and jewel neckline, and realized these are the necklines of most of the dresses I own. Too funny. In my full time job, I work as a Realtor, and dress up all of the time. I just have some different vision of what a wedding gown should look like in my mind.
Post # 8
Keyhole/cap sleeve lace dresses are beautiful, feminine, and fit right in with your theme. Think Bronwyn by Maggie S.
V-neck tank style straps, depending where they sit can also be very flattering.
That said, it all depends on the dress. I’ve tried on strapless that I’ve loved and I’ve tried on strapless that made me feel like a linebacker.
Post # 9
BOSOXfan07: I do aerial fabric training and my arms are pretty buff, too. Probably not anywhere near “deploying with an elite force” buff, but definitely not thin and feminine. This is my dress. I think something similar would probably work for you – Sleeves (or at least enough sleeve to narrow your shoulders a bit), and an interesting neckline to take away from your arms.
Post # 10
jannathegreat: Ha I didn’t want to sound crazy with that statement, I was just trying to get across the point. I deployed with army Special Forces, and it took a hell of a lot of training and weights. That dress is freaking gorgeous! I love it! It’s right around what I’m looking for…..maybe no so trumpet-ey (?) but its beautiful!
Post # 11
BOSOXfan07: Thank you! I didn’t want a fit/flare at ALL when I first started shopping. When I started trying on the “flowy” type dresses I originally wanted, I wasn’t really feeling it, so I started trying on other dresses (kind of out of boredom, honestly). When I put this on I think my eyes bugged out of my head. There is something about having a muscular body and showing off the curves (especially in the butt region) that really made me feel hot and like I looked great, but still bridal, since the bottom is boofy and lacy.
At least try one on! I hated them until I did!