Post # 1
I was told today that most new brides like myself (v-card) holder… would prefer lights off during first few encounters because I won’t be use to anyone seeing me naked.
Question on honeymoon were the lights on or off? I always thought off would be more romantic. Maybe not pitch black dark, but lke tv (setting the mood) LOL IDK
Who knows maybe that person has not idea what I will be like and it may be totally different.
What did you do? Why?…(fear?? LOL )
Post # 3
Well sadly our first time was not our honeymoon but the lights were on… It didn’t seem awkward though. I liked seeing all of him 🙂 nakedness is nothing you should be embarrased about with your spouse lol you will be married, and he will like your body (basically guarunteed) and you will see eachother eventually why not in the beginning. “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” comes to mind 🙂
Post # 4
@cyndistar3: Wow, thank you….really you put that perfectly… nice touch adding in Adam and Eve—- awww, that was beautiful.
Post # 5
@MuchGreater: You seem like the person who would appreciate a bible verse 🙂
Post # 6
I think soft lighting is a must, especially for first-timers. There is all the excitement and nervousness already, darkness isn’t going to help you guide each other (and may even lead to much confusion/discomfort). Even the TV on for light (but candles are much more romantic and take all of 30 seconds to light) will help.
And as cyndistar3 pointed out, you and your husband will want to appreciate all of each other, no need for keeping the lights off 🙂
Post # 7
Our first time was lights on and it wasn’t awkward at all. Fiance loves it with the lights on, but I’ve come to prefer them off (because I am self conscious!). I say do whatever you feel comfortable with in the moment. You might think you won’t be nervous or self conscious but then it comes to THAT moment and you all of a sudden feel differently. You can always try it with lights on later too, so it’s not a huge deal, IMO. 🙂
Post # 8
Darkness would be bad, as would candlelight – you don’t want to be thinking about open flames when concentrating on other things!
BUT if you are staying in a hotel, chances are they will have light dimmers. It is actually nice to be able to see his face and whole body. It’s far too clumsy in darkness and you’ll probably feel more awkward. You might be a little shy at first with the lights on but in the end it will be better.
Post # 9
I suggest darkness with faint candlelight.. 🙂
Post # 10
@MrsPinkBONBON: Candles are bad! Sooo many things can go wrong if you are distracted. You can get fake candles though, they are battery operated.
Oooh, it would be cool if you could decorate the room with fairy lights.
Post # 11
Another point is that when you are experiencing your first time, it’s nice to see where things are and where they should be going. It was his first time as well, so we were both figuring out how best to do things. lol I took the time to explore his body and he did the same with mine. It was really nice to be able to see his face and his reactions to what I was doing – it helped guide me in what he liked and what did nothing for him or what he disliked.
Post # 12
@Everdeen: lol I’m pretty sure candels would be fine considering first time’s usually don’t last that long. Besides it’s not like they wouldn’t be in a container away from anything flammable. Not really a big deal in my opinion.
I still say candelight is the BEST way. You get to see the outline of your partners body if your self conscious. It makes it easier and more romantic in my opinion.
Post # 13
Darling Husband and I have never been shy with lights on from the very beginning. I dont really care if the lights are on or off. It makes no difference. Anyways – if you are going to have daytime honeymoon sex then the lights will be on because it will be light out! Its no big deal!
Post # 14
I say lights on as well!! We waited till our honeymoon and we had all the lights on because it’s hard enough figuring out where everything’s going and what you’re doing if the lights are off. Plus, it’s great to see his face and reactions and I can guarantee he will want to see yours. That’s Darling Husband favorite part about sex!
Post # 15
Candlelight. Its perfect. Hides what you want but you can still see each other’s faces.
Post # 16
IMO, sex with the lights off is very unromantic and a bit boring.
I like being able to see SO while we’re doing it, it’s part of the intimacy.