- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Im just having an interesting waiting period and I wanted to get some feeback from you ladies. We have started really getting into the wedding stuff now (mostly because we dont want to miss opprotunities to book venues, or get the invitations we want, etc). We even have a guest list now (from 50 to 40! thats a bit of a difference!)
I dunno, like everything else in our relationship we do everything for very practical reasons- I love that, and in a way its lead us to a very unconventional waiting period. I guess I never really had the anxiety of the proposal until now because its coming and Im trying very hard not to spoil it by finding it out somehow-Im also nervous about it because its almost here, it might even be sooner than I expected- and yet to be getting invites and doing all that seems so odd, like time is speeding by, actual things are starting to happen, and things are being made concrete- its exciting and nerve-racking at the same time! I dunno, Im also still sick so I guess thats making me a bit funny in the head perhaps 😛
I guess what Im trying to say is that, once you get into it, and the proposal is coming, you got to remember a few key things- you can only be proposed to once, really, and its important to your guy- a realization I just recently reached, so dont spoil it for yourself or for him, especially if your like me and like to figure things out!
The period leading up the proposal might actually be worse than the waiting, if you have nerves like mine lol or it might be the other way around (would like to hear back on that actually).
Anyways, to me it seems like the anticipation of the thing is always worse than the thing itself (I might be ripping off a quote there lol). If you worry to the point of forgetting whats so wonderful about each other, then you’ve already lost something I think. The waiting will be hard, on both of you, so you gotta stick together-ride those highs and lows together because thats the only way you will really be ready for the next step together. SO and I have had some highs and lows recently and its made me realize how much I can depend on him- its made me alot less worried and its made me feel alot more safe.
Most of all, dont be afraid to go off the beaten path when it comes to marriage and weddings- it will lead you to some really great places and be a wild ride, and you might learn alot. I feel like that is what Im going to love the most about being married to my SO- we’ll always be on some sort of adventure, knowing us. Our unconventional ways have changed us, challenged us, and made my waiting period a time where I learned not only alot about my SO, but about myself as well. In a sense, I guess thats why I will look back on it as a challenging, rewarding time.
I know its not easy, but thats how I look on it most days, and it reminds me that I can handle it. I hope that made sense and that someone got something out of that.