Post # 1
I’ll begin with this- technically I’m not in an LDR, but it certainly feels like it! We live together, but he is away from home for work about 60% of the time. So although we live together, it’s a minority of the time.
Anyway, when SO is away (for about 2-4 weeks at a time), there are often periods of 1-2 weeks when he is literally in the jungle with a satellite phone to call a helicopter in to get him, but no other means of contacting the outside world. And international calls on that kind of phone just aren’t really feasible.
I really struggle with the having zero communication, even if it’s just for one week. And going from being together and see other every days for couple of weeks to complete radio silence just really sucks. And I spend a lot of time worrying.
As the title says, this was really just a rant on my part, but if anyone’s got any advice on how to deal with times of no communication, it would’ve appreciated!
Post # 3
@Contented_J: Goodness… what does he do for a living! In the jungles!?!?
Post # 4
Wow, what does he do? (Sounds kind of cool, lol)
What about letter writing? You could ask him to write you a letter before he leaves so that when you’re missing him you could read it & vice versa.
Post # 5
Ha, I swear the jungle things sounds more exciting than it likely is. He’s a geologist wandering around mapping rocks. Also I like the word jungle.
Not a job I could see myself doing though- I’m too much of a fan of plumbing and solid walls/roof kind of girl.
Post # 6
I dated a guy in the military and while he was in Afghanistan, just due to what he did (which he could never really tell me about for security reasons) he wasn’t able to call or access the internet a lot. He would write me every day and I would write him every day, then we’d put the letters in individual numbered envelopes and send them in one big package. Then we’d open the letters one by one each day, so it’s like we got to ‘talk’ to each other every day when we really weren’t.
Post # 7
My long-distance boyfriend travels for work and is also out of touch for a week or so at times. I don’t worry about him cheating and I figure that if he meets someone else, being in touch everyday won’t change that, but I do worry about him dying and myself not knowing what happened. So I feel you on the worrying bit. I do try to put myself in the shoes of people in the olden days who travled for work or even went off to war and were not in touch with their S/O for weeks or even months. I’m sure they worried too, but they just dealt with it and tried to put it out of their minds. If they could do it, we can too.