(Closed) Limited room at reception….who to invite?!?!?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, we needed to keep our guest list down to about half the size of yours.

  • We’re not inviting parents’ friends because we’re paying for the wedding ourselves
  • We’re not inviting co-workers
  • We’re not taking the pretty standard “all or nothing” approach to family: we’re inviting the aunts, uncles and cousins we see and talk to on a fairly regular basis. Those that don’t make an effort to keep in touch with us shouldn’t be surprised when they don’t receive an invitation. (I know that sounds a little harsh but it’s a big family and choices need to be made)
  • We’re not doing “no kids” altogether, but we’re not inviting any second cousins

So in the end, we’re doing immediate family, grandparents, select aunts, uncles and first cousins, and our closest friends.

We’re using the wording “We have reserved __ seat(s) in your honor” on the RSVP card, where we fill in the number to let the guest know how many are invited. Then there will be a spot for them to fill in the number attending.

I personally am not a huge fan of inviting people to the ceremony but not the reception. I’ve heard of it being done so I guess it works for some, but I’m not sure how to pull it off aside from maybe putting “adult reception” or something on the reception card.

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