Post # 1
I know this has been discussed in detail on these boards but we are struggling about what to do with children for our destination wedding (Martha’s Vineyard). I know many people invite kids of family members only. What do you think about inviting family and children of wedding party members. If we invite all kids, we would have 45 on the list but if we just do family and wedding party, it’s only 9 kids. The reason we would do this is that I am very close to my MOH’s daughter and my bridesmaid’s son and want them there but they are not relatives. Is this acceptable?
Post # 3
I think this is definitely fine. You’ll always have those guests that complain, but you can’t please everyone with everything. It’s such a huge difference between 9 and 45 kids that I would go for it.
Post # 4
Yeah some people will go “hm, why’d THEY bring a guest?” but since the # is 9 and 45….well, i go with 9. Bridal party/immediate family only. If anyone says anything, just be like “oh that’smy godson” or nephew or whatever. I doubt they’ll complain to your face. And 9 kids isn’t a lot so they’ll probably assume they’re just family anyways.
Post # 5
I think only inviting the children of family/wedding party is fine. We have people coming in from out of town that are not family, but close friends of my Fiance and his family and their children are invited. However we have friends here that will be invited and their children aren’t, not because we don’t like them but because we aren’t close to them and we already are going to have 20 kids if everyone shows up! I think if anyone gives you a problem explain that you are trying to keep the number of children to a minimum.