Limo Dilema – Who's riding in yours?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What would you do?
    Pay the extra money and invite everyone on : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Just the wedding party : (16 votes)
    89 %
  • Post # 2
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    1104 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We aren’t doing a limo, but a shuttle and it will just be the WP. We are going to our venue early to do WP pictures so even if SOs/family came, they would be sitting, waiting on us.

    In the past when I’ve been on a party bus in the WP no SOs were included in that either..

    So I think no SOs makes sense and is fine!

    Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    You definitely don’t have to invite SOs on the limo.  Its totally acceptable and expected that the limo would be just the bridal party- the dates can drive their cars to the site and meet later. That’s just how it is being the date of a bridesmaid/groomsmen. 

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    It’s quite usual to include only the bridal party and ushers in the transport arrangements but I am wondering what you are planning to do with the rest of your guests for 3 hours while you ride the party bus. 

    Post # 5
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    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We doesn’t invite SOs to ride in our limo and I have never seen the B&G invite SOs for weddings that DH and I have been in.

    As the SO, I would not even enjoy riding around and watching pictures. I would rather meet up with my husband later. Maybe you should ask your attendants if their SOs would even be interested in riding in the limo.

    One thing to consider- make sure that the meeting point for the limo is convenient so that the wedding party doesn’t have to leave a car someplace. That has happened to us before and it’s annoying to try to figure out the car situation- especially when we were down to one car.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    You absolutely DON’T have to invite the SO’s to ride in the limo. If you wanted them to be there throughout the whole shindig, they would be part of the bridal party. You chose who you chose for a reason. That does not include their partner, husband, wife, gf, FI, whatever.

    We have a bridal party of 20 people, if we invited each and every one’s SO to ride with us, we’d probably need something close to the size of a commecial plane.

    It isn’t your responsibility to give them a ride, they are big adults, they can spend 3 hours apart from each other.

    Yes I feel strongly about this, because it is your money, and your small budget, and that’s just plain ridiculous

    Post # 9
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    11740 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We didn’t have SOs in the limo.  It would have been weird.  No one had a problem with it. 

    Post # 10
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    1287 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    DomesticDiva:  We are not inviting/having bridal party SO’s on the limo bus.  Granted, with just the party, we are at 15 ppl, and got a 20 person bus (for space, and such!).

    Regardless, we never thought twice about it,  because I have heard hardships with the added distractions, and getting pictures taken in a timely matter, etc.  The more ppl with you, the harder it is to keep everyone on task.  

    I feel that as an adult, they can find their own way to pass the time while we are out and about for a few hours.  I say, stick to your guns!!

    Edit to note:  The flip side to this is also the fact that I have heard SO’s of bridal parties member whom are invited on the party bus ‘complain’ about ‘having’ to be with the bridal party at this time, and thus missing an opportunity to hang out with their friends/other guests.  AND, being bored because the bridal party is constantly being pulled in different directions, so they are just kinda sitting there.  This may not apply for EVERYONE, but a lot of my friends have stated they prefer to be doing their own thing 🙂

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  OUgal0004.
    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    DomesticDiva:  I am on your side, the SOs of the wedding party are not in your wedding party, so therefore, no need for them to go in the limo. 

    For our wedding, the people who came in the limo were us (bride & groom), Bridesmaids, Groomsmen, my aunt and grandmother-thats it. No SOs came, they met us at the reception hall, our FG & RB went with my SIL (their mother), we invited them in the limo but she was pregnant at the time and wanted her own space which I completely understand. 

    Post # 12
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    2132 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We are doing pictures in between, and only having the groomsmen and bridesmaids with us on in the limo.  We aren’t including ushers and we even considered only including ourselves for the limo, but decided it would be easier for pictures if we all road together.  SOs are definitely not invited in the limo. Why would they want to stand outside (especially in July) awkwardly watching the bridal party take pictures?  I think they would be much more comfortable going back to the hotel to rest for an hour during the gap or maybe watching pictures in the church with AC and be able to get to the cocktail hour right away and enjoy drinks rather than standing outside in scorching heat, and then meet up with their dates.  

    I’ve actually never heard of including SO on limos.  I know people like to include them on the head table or do a sweet heart table so they can sit with their dates.  But to think they can’t spend an hour by themselves is a little babyish.  I’d probably be relived to have a little bit of time to relax before the reception

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  mgbser.
    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

    I dont think the SOs need to be there. Plus if I was a SO of someone in the wedding party, I would rather have the option to drive our car to the reception so we have a vehicle and can leave when we want.

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

    Wedding party only. I think sig others would distract the party and the sooner you get your photos taken the better.

    I also agree that the bridal party will need to get home at the end of the night and their sig others will need to bring a car or all the sig others can car pool. (the sig others need to be at wedding before hand as per all other guests)

    My sister has often not even been invited to a wedding at all when her husband has been in the bridal party.. (she didnt mind as she didnt know the couples much and would be bored and lonely for most of the time with people she doesnt know..

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