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So we are 9 days out.  When we got engaged the FH and I decided to ask FH's grandpa to use the tour/RV bus thing he takes to Florida every year to use as our day of transportation from church to reception.  Well, I find out yesterday, that not only has the FH not asked, the tour/RV bus thing is not available because someone broke into it and caused damage.  As of now, it looks like FH and I will be driving ourselves in our Prius.  That's exactly how I imagined I would drive away from the ceremony...... Thank god, my AMAZING FSIL is contacting limo companies all day today.  FH's grandma will be paying for it, and she has said she will make it her mission to get us a limo on our wedding day.  Since we don't need the limo at night, just from 12:30-6:30, she is pretty sure she can make it happen.

Also my FH's family is totally irresponsible about RSVP'ing.  Most of my family got theirs in, the biggest problems we had were with our friends, my parents friends and his ENTIRE family!  I worked really hard to get answers from everyone on my side, he had pretty much done nothing to get answers on his side.  I am supposed to have a final seating chart done today as well as give the hotel the final number, and I can't because his family is too rude and lazy to send in the prestamped RSVP card!  I really like his family, but sh*t like this pisses me off.  Oh and the FH doesn't think it's a big deal either!  I told him about a gajillion times yesterday to call and he still hasn't.  So I told him today that if I didn't hear anything from him by noon, then I would just give the hotel the numbers we have now.  If his family unexpectedly shows up, tough sh*t!  No food or seats for you you lazy f'ers!

Also the seating chart is impossible because everyone in his family has been divorced, so his parents can't sit together, neither can his grandparents, how am I supposed to do a seating chart for 10 person tables, when I can only get like 4 people who like each other at one table?!?!?  His family will just have to sit with our friends or something because I am sick of dealing with it....... Ughh..... 9 days out and I hate my wedding right now......

I'm sorry you're having such a stressful last month!  Try not to worry too much about the transportation-- we just did a caravan of cars at our wedding, and it worked out perfectly.  It was actually less stressful to arrange after the ceremony, than trying to find everyone at the same time to cram into the limo-- everyone just went in their pre-assigned cars.  No muss, no fuss, and an extra $500 in our pocket to use on our mini-moon.

Can you sit down with the FH tonight and make the phone calls with him (or sit there and do something else while he calls)?  Would the venue be ok with you giving a tentative number tonight, but then able to increase it tomorrow?  I know mine was flexible with things like that.

Good luck with the seating charts! 

I know you're really frustrated and I hope venting helps!

A suggestion that worked well for my cousin's wedding:  they had 22 tables of 10 at their rehersal dinner.  The mixed a representative from the groom's family and a represenative from the bride's family at each table and then tried to fill in with people who might have another connection with the reps.  Worked really well.  My FI & I sat with someone I met in college.  The bride's rep was her cousin and his gf.   The others at the table went to high school with the bride's cousin.  It made it more interesting and helped spread people out.

@ Kittyachi - LMBO!!!! Superglue and a whip, hahaha, that is hilarious!!!!!

We did get the seating chart done, and he says that he called everyone he needed( I hope so cuz if one of them shows up.....)

We got a limo, my wonder FSIL worked her magic!

Oh yeah, we have really awkward tables because of his family!  But I don't care, it's done and I'm not messing with it anymore!

Thanks!  At this point I have pretty much decided to just let it go.... There's nothing I can do about it anyway!