Listing hosts' first names on invitation

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
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Bumble bee

I am a stickler for traditional etiquette, and by that standard social events are properly hosted by only one lady, with her husband if she has one; and for a wedding celebration that lady is the bride’s closest relative.

I had to say that. It makes no difference to the answer to your question, which is: a person’s proper name takes the form that the person himself or herself prefers. So if your mother-in-law wants to use Nancy, then Nancy it is. If your mother prefers Mrs John Smith, then that’s  what it is for her. Your invitation would then read:

Captain and Mrs John Smith

Doctor George Jones and Mrs Nancy Jones

request the pleasure of the company of ….

If your mother wants to get on the first-name bandwagon then it would read:

Captain John Smith and Mrs Jennifer Smith

Doctor George Jones and Mrs Nancy Jones

request the pleasure of the company of ….

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