(Closed) Listing MOB as host on shower invite

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hm well I’m unaware of any etiquette rules involving shower invites, but my inclination is to definitely list your mom. If she’s hosting, she’s hosting!, and you should honor her with the credit!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

That etiquette rule is true, but it’s not really followed anymore. I’ve never actually been to a shower that wasn’t hosted by a family member (my mom and sister are hosting mine). I think it really depends on where you live too.

If you and your mom are comfortable with her name on there than just tell your MOH to please list it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I don’t know. It is considered bad etiquette to have the MOB as the shower host (your family asking people to give you gifts goes against etiquette rules). Although, I’m sure what you describe happens pretty often (and was sort of the case at a shower I went to recently). I don’t know about you, but my mother is more in-tune with etiquette rules than I am, and I don’t think she would want to be listed on the shower invitation because she knows the rules. I would talk to your mom about it, see what she thinks, and then do whatever she wants. You don’t have to follow every single rule.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s true, etiquette does say that your mom should not be listed as a host. But like ES123 said, you don’t need to follow every rule. If your mom would be hurt by not being listed, list her. Her feelings are way more important than some etiquette "rules"!

Post # 7
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Worker bee

Also, it may be pretty obvious that your mother played a large role in organizing the event even without listing her name as a "hostess" explicitly – because it’ll be at her house! It would be pretty natural to include her name elsewhere at the invitation, such as "..at the home of DaisyBride’s Mother" without having to list it at the very top, where it could strike some etiquette-sticklers as being out of place.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

The invites for the shower I’m MOH’ing list the bride’s mom and her attendants.  I did it that way so everyone felt included.  I would tell your MOH that Mama’s name should be on there or else her feelings will be hurt.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I don’t really get this etiquette rule…it seems really old fashioned to me.  I mean, most brides have a shower, so why is it that if mom throws it for you, it is gift grabby?  Nine times of out ten someone throws a shower and if mom wants to do it, who cares?!

I was my sister’s MOH and hosted it at my mom’s house (easier, better location, etc).  I wish I could remember what we put on the invites!!   

Anyways, I would list them both on the invite.

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My first post!

 I have heard of this ettiquiete rule, but know many who do not go by it anymore. I feel it’s an outdated that should be left up to the individual.

My step mom & mom are throwing me a shower & I so happy that they want to do that for me.

After all wouldn’t you want someone who truly cares about you to throw one, family or friend?

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