Literally everyone is getting engaged and I am losing my mind

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@Reneesmith741992:  I kind of feel the same as you, actually! I always thought I’d never feel this way, as I’m very content in my relationship. However, we were supposed to get engaged by the end of the year, and it’s just not going to happen. Now that everyone idiot and their mother on my facebook are getting engaged, I’m getting pissy and anxious. Like, one couple got engaged the other day… they’ve been together for like 3 months and it’s her first lesbian relationship. Like, really?! I’m completely okay with homosexuality (a lot of my close friends are gay), but she’s just jumped head first into that world, and not to mention… 3 months! Uhhhhhhggg

 

 

I’m sorry, that’s all extremely judgemental on my part. It’s just frustrating lol. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I completely feel the same way.  Everyone is getting engaged!  My whole facebook feed is engagements, especially after Christmas yesterday.  I am so happy for all these people, but it is making me pissy about my own relationship and it’s current status.  I hate that feeling!

Post # 5
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2516 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Reneesmith741992:  This was me last year. During engagement season my brother, my sister, and my best friend from HS all got engaged between Oct- Christmas day. I almost lost my mind. Especially because two of them had been dating their SOs as long as me and FI had been dating 😛

Hang in there!!! It can be really frustrating! I didn’t get engaged until June but trust me it gets easier after the holidays when everyone stops getting engaged lol.

Post # 6
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204 posts
Helper bee

Yep let’s see I think I’ve seen at the most, four engagement announcements on Facebook in the past month. Not helping my patience one bit! Grrrrr…my SO says he really wants to celebrate Valentine’s day with me so I’m crossing my fingers that’ll be a great day. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I know the feeling. I think it may be easier if I just give up And convinve myself he doesn’t want to marry me. Then I will have no expectations! Lol

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Just commenting to say I’m in the same boat. I got my period yesterday and I was a little more emotional than I care to admit. Been together 8yrs and I’m 30 years old so it seems like every engagement that happens on FB is a couple who have been together for less time than we have and most of them are younger. My SO and I had a lot of big expenses come up in the last few months that set back the ring savings so I was pretty sure it wouldn’t happen, but it’s still tough. He keeps saying it will happen when our finances improve, but that might take awhile.

Trying to be positive and patient, but that’s hard after waiting so long and watching so many other couples get engaged in the meantime.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2017

@cafelatte:  

@cafelatte:  I’m hearing You! I got in an argument yesterday about it ( on my period too) because he keeps saying he wants to marry be but I’ve seen nothing. What set off the argument yesterday was the comment he made about oh it won’t be too long until we have kids and he damn well knowa I want a two to three year engagement and to enjoy the married life for a couple years too.

Post # 10
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Newbee

I guess it is part of growing up. My YOUNGER cousin is getting married next week and I am have bridesmaid. I am trying to control my emotions by next week so I don’t cry myself because of pity/jeolousy but actually be happy for my baby cousin when I am standing at the alter with the bridesmaid. 

Me and my bf we both make more money than my cousin with her fiance since we went to university my bf have pharmacist license and I am doing Master of Health Administration while my cousin and her FI went to college having almost minimum wage jobs (just my salary is equal to both of theirs’ combined). It is true sometimes money isn’t everything. My point is that we are more financial secure than them (I am not putting them down) but unfortunately we work 4 hours drive from each other. My bf is having a hard time getting a job in the city. I am giving my bf a few more years to try to get a job back to the city otherwise I have to give up my current job which offer good salary, great reputation hospital experience and will move to whereever he will work 2-3 years from now.  

It does get annoying when family, friends and even co-workers ask me when I will get married. This morning I have been crying because I really don’t know the answer and I found out yesterday my bf’s one week older cousin who isn’t ready to get married when I talked to him in October proposed to his gf even if they live in different countries (Spain and Japan). 

Post # 11
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564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

@Reneesmith741992:  

it’s the time of the year. Take heart that things will slow down after Valentines Day. I know that it’s hard watching people (even people you love) take that step when they’ve been together for a much shorter time than you and your SO.

This year, so far, I’ve heard of far fewer engagements and been ridiculously happy for the one I have heard about (a second wedding on both sides for two people who are very much in love and very much deserve a second crack at marital happiness) One was widowed quite young, and the other’s been divorced over a decade.

I’m going to make a suggestion you might not like- but do consider it. It might be a time for you to take a break from wedding blogs, and wedding shows, and wedding magazines and concentrate on something else. Especially if it’s driving you crazy.

 

Post # 12
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102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I have seen a handful of engagement and baby announcements this week alone on facebook. Makes me want to Cry.

Post # 13
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I’ve gotten comments from friends and family all week and I found out last night that my best friend’s little sister (who has been dating her SO for less than half the time my SO and I have been together…) got engaged yesterday. I started bawling in the car on the way home from my SO’s family’s house lol.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

@Reneesmith741992:  It’s the engagement season. I have literally five friends left who are not engaged. Only one has been dating longer then me. I have friends that were single when SO and I moved in together… and are now engaged.

It’ll be okay. Just get off social media, it’s the worst this time of year. 😉

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Hah yeah just a week ago I had my SOs relatives ask, “so is this the new mrs. B?” I had to nervously laugh and say not yet. Grr.. everyone knows we’re getting married its just a matter of when. 

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Reneesmith741992:  I don’t think weddings are becoming trendy, they’re just the next step when two people love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together.  It’s a pretty long-standing tradition, so I wouldn’t say it’s a trend. Are you in your mid to late 20s? It’s just kind of that age where everyone starts getting married and having babies.

 

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