little bump in my waiting road.

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

This again is one of those thought processes of ring= engagement. He could possibly still propose and just won’t have a ring, would it mean you’re any less engaged?

I guess I just don’t understand it. My FI could have proposed with a ring from a gumball machine or with no ring at all and I’d have said yes and been psyched about it.

Post # 3
250 posts
Helper bee

do a moissanite or asha temp ring in a style you like and then replace it with a diamond later. That is what we are doing due to a few bumps we ran into financially – medical, home and work issues.  However we want to be married and I would have been happy with no ring but it would have been frowned upon by friends and family. remember you are planning a lifetime together.  No need to start it in debt.  Eventually when you can afford it replace it.  If you go this route though stick to the round forever brilliant or round style.  The other styles show a bit more warmth. Good Luck!

Post # 5
250 posts
Helper bee

mexicalijennie:  I don’t get the ego thing either!  Ugh some men. I get the traditional family stuff. My guy and I did discuss the future and he said I will be a SAHW b/c he and I want our children to have a parent to be supporting them at afterschool events, homework ect.  I would talk to him about moissanite though and let him do some research.  My SO (now FI!) didn’t like the idea at first but then he saw how it was ethical as well as cost efficient. I showed him a few Youtube videos on how diamonds are mined and it turned his stomach. Eventually in the future we will change it to a Canadian diamond and make sure the papers are legit that it is NOT a blood diamond.  He knows that the research for this will take quite some time as well as saving the funds for one of these since they are more expensive to get a good quality diamond.  I would explain to him that marriage is compromise.  Let’s compromise on this for now and maybe his wedding day gift to you could be your diamond and wedding band. It would make that day just a little more special for you. Just a thought.  Keep us posted!

Post # 6
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

mexicalijennie:  It’s insensitive for you to be annoyed that he needs more time to save for a ring after supporting you for the last couple of months (not to mention paying for the expensive trip you took). Show some understanding and realize that neither of you saw this coming so you will have to flexible. As you said it’s only a small bump in the road.

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