Post # 1
…AND I AM SO HAPPY!!
I got engaged this past December to the man I have been with for 5 years and she is a BM in my September wedding. She is 21, and has only been dating this guy since January. He proposed tonight, using his great-grandmothers e ring.
I wanted to share my this, because I have seen some posts over the last few weeks about brides worrying that siblings and friends are just trying to “steal their thunder”, especially when the relationship is so new. They become worried that plans and dates will clash, or people will stop being excited about their engagement in light of the newer one. They even say things about whether or not the couple has been together “long enough” for it to be “valid” and/or they are too young.
Here’s the thing, bees. I don’t know whether my sister’s relationship will work out or not. Two months is kinda soon and they are young. I have no idea when she is planning to marry (although, she did mention waiting until after mine). BUT, I do know that she is happier than I have ever seen her. I do know that I met my FI when I was 20, and was ready to marry him after 2 months. I do know that she deserves to be treated as though her decisions are valid. I do know that there is no reason for two sisters to “compete” when it comes to weddings and love.
I am happy, and since my sister and I are not terribly close (we are both closer with the third sister) I am excited that we can use this opportunity to bond over wedding dresses. I hope other sisters (or friends, or FILs, etc) who have rocky relationships can hopefully look at their situations as a possibility of being closer, and not something else to drive a wedge between them.
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@CaptainKH: Best post ever! I really wish more people had your same outlook when it comes to similar situations. And congratulations to your little sister!!! 🙂
Post # 5
Big, big like. I bonded with my sister over my wedding too <3 I’m sure I could have been over the moon with happiness for my other two sisters if they had gotten engaged during my engagement. I agree with the overall sentiment you expressed in your post.
Post # 6
Congrats to both of you! Also, good luck! I am sincere about that!
And I hate to be a debbie-downer but, also make sure you both sit down with your parents to talk about finances. If they plan on helping you both out, both of you will need to be okay if the dates are far away or someone has to wait longer, etc. Don’t need to stress out your parents!
Okay – back to being excited! You guys can do each other’s bachelorette parties! Or, if you really want, a double wedding! You may not be twins but I always liked the idea of double weddings – it’s cute and well, cuts costs for the siblings/parents/guests! lol!
Keep us updated on it! 😀
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@Booknerd: My FI and i are paying for our own wedding. I am not sure if they will help woth hers or not. But thanks for the advice! She is pretty realistic about everything, so I think things will work out and we won’t likely get in eachother’s way.
thanks to all you bees, for your kind words!
Post # 9
I wish I had the opportunity to bond with my sister like this. Our weddings were not close together, but our weddings seemed to make the rift that much bigger. Her husband is a complete JERK to both myself and my new husband, so needless to say…we still don’t get along. I am really happy that you can see both angles. She is young, and it is a bit quick, but I am also pleased that she is going to wait until after your wedding to get married. And hey, she can use your wedding as a learning experience and figure out her likes/dislikes faster. I hope both weddings are perfect though 🙂
Post # 10
@CaptainKH: I LOVE this post!
I’m 22, engaged after a little over 4 months of dating, and have been dealing with a lot of questions, concerns, and criticisms from a variety of people. But thank God that FI and I both have supportive families who just want us to be happy. And when they see it in our faces, and hear how happy we are when we talk about each other, they don’t question it.
We did just drop a bomb on them, though: we might be having a courthouse wedding soon because he’s in the military and getting ready to leave for Germany, and I plan on joining him after the wedding celebration I’ve been planning for next year. This caused some concern, but ultimately our parents are going to support us and be happy for us, cuz it’s our decision.
My older sister isn’t even dating anyone at the moment, but she’s being so supportive. Thanks for allowing me a possible peek into her brain with this post lol
Post # 11
@Dimples723: Congrats to you!
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I also don’t understand when people are upset someone else (sister, friend, whatever) got engaged soon after them or set a date near their own (unless it’s like the next or same weekend or something). Let’s all just be happy for each other and have fun!