(Closed) Little sister is getting engaged

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

It can be very, very tempting to want to compare your lives, but the truth is that you two have such different lives that you shouldn’t! I know it’s hard though–when everyone I knew was engaged but me and we’d been together the longest, every single day was hard. It just plain sucks.

However, keep in mind that you’ll both be happy. You’ll have reasons to celebrate together! Just try to stay a little positive, because you KNOW it’s coming no matter what, and you’ll be with your guy no matter what.

Good luck and lots of hugs!

Post # 4
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Just tell yourself that you’re saving the best for last! Think of it as a way to not only step up as the supportive big sis, but a way for you to get your feet wet with wedding planning.

Once the hype of her engagement and wedding are over…..all eyes will then be on you. =)

Post # 5
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m so sorry that you’re feeling this way. Try to trust your boyfriend and believe him that he is going to do right by you and he WILL propose. Try to take a step back from talking about the proposal and try to focus on other things for right now. Your sister is going to be engaged soon, and though it’s going to be very difficult to be able to swallow that, make sure she doesn’t know that. You never know…they could be planning to propose to you at the same time! Your dad might have let something slip that your boyfriend didn’t want you to know about. So have faith in him. And be happy for your sister when it happens. B/c you might be shortly after! And how much fun will planning weddings with your sister be?? Keep your chin up and it will definitely happen sooner than you think…I promise!

Post # 6
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m with laboroflove, you and your sister are two different people with two different paths to take in life.  Be happy for her–and happy for yourself!  You have a great guy, who you want to marry.  That’s awesome!  I can understnad why this situation is difficult for you and it would be very easy to feel discouraged but theres nothing you can do about it so I say hold your head up high–everyone willbe just as excited for you when you get engaged!  And if no one else, WE WILL BE! <3

Post # 7
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can understand how you feel.  When I was waiting for a proposal it seemed like everyone around me was getting engaged or married.  It was tough.  Luckily I have 3 brothers and a sister, all of whom are in HS or middle school but I think it would be especially tough if it was my sister.  So, I don’t think you’re being irrational.  That being said, make sure you don’t accidentally react to her engagement in a negative way because this is a sensitive issue and you do NOT want to cause a problem.  Yikes.  I’m sure your engagement is coming soon too, so don’t forget to be excited for that.  A guys usually doesn’t act that way unless he’s got something in the works.  Yaaaay 🙂

Post # 8
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ugh… that SO SUCKS. It can happen from both ends too… and it happened to me! I’m the younger sister and my brother is much older than me (I’m 25 and he’s 33). My Fiance and I started seriously talking engagement last spring (when we’d been together a bit over 2 years) and I pretty much knew that he planned to propose during a trip to Mexico we had booked for October. I didn’t tell my family because I wanted it to be a surprise. My brother had been dating a girl (who was 19, so it isn’t like she was in a rush to have babies or anything) for about 6-8 months, and SHOCKED everyone by proposing in late June. When I told my (now)FI that he had gotten engaged you could just SEE he was upset that my brother beat him to the punch. I felt like it really sucked because we had been together way longer, and also because in my mind we did everything ‘right’ (waited until we were out of school, in stable jobs, making good money). I felt like it wasn’t really fair because my brother was 8 years older than me and how the heck does he decide to propose at the same time as my bf was planning to? Especially bc we are the only two kids so my parents somehow ended up with two kids 8 years apart getting married within a year of each other. 

So I stewed a bit. Then I realized that I couldn’t really be mad at him because he didn’t know my bf was going to propose so he didn’t do it on purpose (in fact, apparently when my mother told him that I got engaged he was shocked because he thought I “didn’t believe in marriage”— what?!). And although it really SUCKS that we’re getting married so close there is nothing to be done about it. I did have to give up my idea of a fall wedding because they picked late August and I didn’t want to be too close to them (or wait a whole extra year)… but I decided to go with winter and I’m really embracing the season. 

Lots of rambling I guess but the bottom line is… life happens. As much as it sucks when things like this happen you have to realize that they didn’t do it TO YOU they just did it. And in the end everyone will be married and happy and it will all be ok. 

Post # 9
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

sending you hugs !

Post # 10
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I’m sorry, I would be incredibly frustrated and upset if I was in that situation as well…But the good news is that it sounds like your Boyfriend or Best Friend is going to propose very soon and the second that happens, I’m willing to bet all these feelings will disappear…

So even though it’s so so so hard to do, try to be happy for your sister and remind yourself that your time is coming and hopefully, once you are both engaged, it can be a great bonding experience for you and your sister to plan your weddings together!

Good luck!

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