(Closed) Little stressed with FILs (long and possibly badly written)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Honestly, if the beef or prime rib was so important, my guess is they would tell you about it.  Especially if they are paying for the food.  This is your wedding, so you don’t need to compete with anyone.  Do everything the way you want to do it.  Trying to make it just like someone else’s “fancy” wedding is only going to stress you out.  Don’t worry about what other people did. 

Good luck. 

Post # 4
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sorry.  My FILs have a huge invite list too, and are much more “fancy” and conservative than my family. It makes me anxious too, so I know how you feel 🙂  I don’t really have any advice, except to just be true to yourself and what you guys want and can afford.  You don’t have to compete with anyone, and you can’t please everyone all the time.

Post # 5
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds like you are very concerned about how the big guest list will affect the food budget . . . but your inlaws have offered to pay for that, right? So I don’t think you should let that stress you out too much.

Post # 6
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355 posts
Helper bee

I understand wanting to please everyone, but is the stress it’s causing you worth it?  Pick a venue that you and FI love and want to get married in.  Let’s say it holds 150 (like you wanted).  Minus you and FI that leaves 74 guests per side.  You tell FIL’s you have 74 guests, please give me the names and addresses.  If you only have 50-60, offer them the extra #’s, but don’t try and “keep up with Jonses”, do what makes you happy.

Best of luck!!

Post # 8
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921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

ill have to agree the date books up fast lol.

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