- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I love my FILs, dont get me wrong, but when it comes to the wedding I am a bit stressed. They have a HUGE family, extended family, and “have-to” invite family friends. We started thinking our wedding would be around 100-150. FI gave me a number for his side, and not thinking about it I started palnning around that number. Well, after a dinner talking about the wedding with his parents I find out he was WAY off. Now his side alone is 145, and mine is 50-60 (depending on OOT family) My side count also includes both of our mutual friends and bridal parties. I am not mad at them, he is his mommy’s baby, her first to get married, but I absolutly hate alot of ppl. Makes me anxious.
On top of this all I know I am putting a ton of pressure on myself because they are all a lot more conservative and “fancy” than I am. Every wedding I have been to on that side has been an amazing prime rib and salmon buffet (not kidding… only one really nice caterer around here so main dishes werent different.. lol) with open beer and wine bar. Our venue is no where near as nice as the one we had booked before the increase of guests, and is pretty rustic, and not as whimsical as the ones I have been to, or have invites to for this summer (right before ours) The cater we are using but with chicken instead of beef, and we can not even fathom affording the caterer for a bar. They charge $3.50/beer and $4.25/wine, and an enormous amount for a cheap signature drink (my ONLY request because I hate beer and wine, and have to deal with a ton of ppl)
My FILs are paying for the food and something else they want to talk about in person, which is incredable, but since the family owns their own business I have to wait until after mothers day to book ANYTHING else, and my day is one of the quickest booked days there is! The help would be great, and if I didnt accept it they would be VERY disapointed
THen there is anything little i try to get done offends someone like my mom or his mom. I did the invites, and no one was upset about the wording, but both moms were upset I did it without them. I TRIED to do my RSPVs and FI thought that it would be easier on me to ask his mom to just whip them up. (big fight about asking without talking to me, stress me out more, then I let it go) That was two months ago. Now I know there is still time, but why should I have to be stressed when I could have done them up, and to save my sanity he could have called them for their guest list and addresses I was really stressed over and have yet seen with my own eyes.
Sorry for this vent, but no one understands, and my BMs really are not wedding ppl, and as much as they love me, they dont love weddings.
Any advice on anything? My head is so scrabbled I think I am going on wedding vaca and hoping all turns out.