Post # 1
Hey bees! My husband and I got married 3 weeks ago (yayy =D) now my friend set her date for next june , sort of an alice in woderland/gothic theme, smaller intimate wedding.Its going to be really nice and im really stoked because im matron of honor (not too sure what that is) She also had a Maid of honor, and with less than 9 months to go ive stood by n watched her MOH just ignore tha fact that shes getting married. Shes delayed the bridal shress shopping, hasnt planned an engagment party and the brides getting flustered. On top of that Her FMIL is causing trouble.
Her mother and father saved 10,000 dollars to help them with a house. And she was lead to believe they were also helping with the wedding on top of that. Now theyre saying we will give you the 10 grand for either the house or the wedding. And they want the house so they downsized thr wedding, smaller guest list ( local family and bridal party only i believe) but her FMIL isnt happy that alot of her FI’s relatives got cus, even though his guests took up over half the guest list.. THey have no intention on help paying ( from what i understand) and theyre causing so much stress on them they want to cancel all together.Now i get how it is, my parents pulled the same shit on me, 2 months to the wedding my dad said he wouldnt come because we didnt deserve to be married. The man who was suppose to walk me down the isle dies 4 months to the day. it gets hard, but sometimes you gotta pull through dont you?
anyways theres my rant….I really want to throw her a halloween engagment party (its her favorite time of year), i asked her n she said she would like that but shes so down about whats going on she just doesnt seem like she actually wants it. Should I go n throw her a small surprise one? Or with everything thats going on should i just drop it. i know shes stressed because of her inlaws and her bridal party isnt making it any easier.. id like it if someone would have done it for me. What do you think? if not an engagemtn party maybe a more causal ” hey your getting married! forget everyone and be happy!!” party =D or would i be crossing a line
Post # 3
@myluverbuny: I would do the surprise engagement party for her. As for what is the matron of honor role, its really no different from the maid of honor role, just the marital status (matron=married, maid=not married). Sounds like she just needs a loving and supporting friend as well to listen to her rants and sounds like you’re the perfect person for the job.
Post # 4
I think you should go for it. I think it would definitely make her feel better and maybe even get more excited about the getting married part (minus the drama) sometimes being around your friends to celebrate something like your engagement could be a good moral boost 🙂
Post # 5
I say go for it, as matron of honor (the only difference between the terminology is that you are married and maids are not married) you get the same responsibilities as a maid of honor. Throwing a party for your friend is well within your scope as matron of honor 🙂
Post # 6
Go for it!! I think you’ve got a great outlook, make it all “HEY you’re getting married!!” so the focus is on that super awesome fact. 🙂
I think too many brides get caught up in the details, the unfortunate problems, the snags and issues that pop up… and forget that the whole point is that, at the end of the day, that man she loves so much will be her HUSBAND!
I think the party will be a really sweet gesture to get her out of her funk (and all brides go through that down feeling about something, I think!) and keep her thinking positively!
Post # 7
@lovelove1028: Yea thats what im thinking, i talked o her mother about it n she thinks its a great idea! She needs some fun. Every bride does ;p i had problems with my parents the whole time i was planning. They pretty much threw tantrums left right and center and yet at the same time didnt want to be involved lol at one point i just laughed and said its about Me and my Husband to be, which it true!
Post # 8
Sounds like a party is just what she needs to lift her spirits and remember how much her friends and family love her. I say go for it!
Post # 10
Sounds like an awesome plan to me! The party sounds like exactly what the doctor ordered to make her feel loved. 🙂
Post # 11
Do it! Maybe the maid of honor thinks YOU are planning all these things for her so she didn’t bother. You just never know but either way i’d plan it for her. She may not think she wants it but I guarentee you she will feel so loved and so happy you did that for her.
Post # 12
Go for it! sounds lke she really deserves it and hallowen parties are always fun.