Post # 1
To make a very angry evening short:
She called my FI and said “Since she is now too old to have children [just turned twenty freaking FIVE] and, as she hasn’t had any already we do not support your choice to marry her.”
I know this doesn’t change how FI feels at all, but W.T.F.
Post # 3
Omg, that’s one of the most insane things I’ve her out of a FMIL’s mouth! Is she normally this… well, crazy?
Post # 4
Um. Wow. I have no words.
So…it’s a bad thing FI didn’t knock you up? Yeesh.
Post # 5
WOW…… Um 25 is still REALLY young to start having kids.
Post # 6
I don’t know if she’s crazy, I know that our values are universes apart from hers.
(As in, i don’t buy my dishes at Wal-Mart, so she calls me pretentious.)
I was so mad I couldn’t even speak, and I normally have a LOT to say.
Post # 7
#1 We are date twins! YEAH!
#2 Your FMIL is bat shit crazy. 25 isn’t old and just because you weren’t a teen mom (no offense to ANY teen mothers out there!) doesn’t mean you can’t/won’t have children in the future (unless you and FI have decided not to have kids). Was she drunk? Jeez that was SO rude and uncalled for!
Post # 8
What in the hell. Where exactly is your relationship with your FMIL supposed to go from here?!
Post # 10
Holy crap. 25 is, by no means, “too old to have children”! I have no advice to offer you, but I just wanted to let you know that she is totally and completely wrong.
Was she drunk or something when she called your FI?
Post # 11
Ok, I get that her values are different, but I can’t believe she was sooooo vocal about it. And not in a tactful way at all. I wouldn’t say anything to her. What good could come out of it? She’s obviously not going to understand. And luckily, science and biology are not on her side… you can have like 10 kids starting now if you really wanted to, jeesh 🙁
Post # 12
No, not drunk! Thankfully, she lives in a different state, so I don’t often see her, and now, perhaps, she won’t even come to the wedding.
To make this better, she said it during a family get together, so everybody heard it. It was already hard enough fitting in, my family is (was) very wealthy, and his family isn’t, so there’s already problems relating there. Not that I care at all about how much money they have, but they’re always making remarks about my family, and about FI and myself.
As in “Oh, you’re so fancy, did your MOM pay for your NEW car?” (Um, it’s a 1999, and NO)
When gambling (something I don’t really care for, but his parents LOVE) “Skipped right over the quarter machines, are you too RICH for them”
And on and on and on.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
All you can do is laugh at that kind of crazy. There’s no rationalizing with a person who thinks it’s a virtue to have children as a teenager or that 25 is too old. So just laugh at her. She’s totally nuts.
Post # 14
Are you serious? I would have been so beyond livid!
I am so sorry his family is treating you like that! Either way they will have to get over all of it since he LOVES YOU. My Grama made me promise when I was 5 to wait to have kids til I was 25 lol!
You’ve got your man and you live in different states! lol
Post # 15
I advocate mentally punching her in the face. Clearly doing it in real life is wrong. But I’ll start you off. *mental kapow!*
Post # 16
That is the craziest thing I have ever heard. You could wait ten years before you have kids if you wanted to!