(Closed) LIVID!!! What would you do? (long one)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3608 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m confused… and I read it twice. Are you upset that she (maybe) pulled a sicky? That they haven’t paid you back?

I’m sorry to hear about you mother and your husband, it sounds pretty intense.

Post # 4
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It sounds like these two are taking advantage of your kindness and now they’re affecting your family business.  It’s time to put your foot down. 

Post # 7
5978 posts
Bee Keeper

I think you need to let this go and stop relying on her for help. And definitely stop lending her or her FI money! You’re starting to get burned for your generosity, and she’s absolutely taking full advantage of you!

Post # 8
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

It totally sounds like the bride and groom are trying to pull a fast one and take a day together… but I would give them the benefit of the doubt and make sure that for her next pay period you dock the day that she didn’t actually work.  If she complains, that’s a totally legit excuse.  And if it happens again (suddenly taking off days), definitely call them out on it or say that you need to find someone more reliable to take care of your mother (unless her regular caregiver comes back soon?).

I’m sorry for all the unfortunate problems your family is dealing with.  It sounds really stressful and I think you’re right in that it is probably adding up and affecting your mood.  Good luck with things!

Post # 9
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is this your sister who just got engaged? If so, I’d let your parents deal with her with regards to family business affairs. It’s really not worth sticking your nose in it. As for the rest of it, I’d just tell her that you’re busy with X, Y, and Z if she starts making demands on your time.

Post # 10
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Dont jump to anything quite yet but stop going above and beyond for her. Let her pay back her dept and be supportive to her like anyone else would. Maybe she is sick and maybe she isnt. If she thinks she is sick at all and that it could be contagious I wouldnt want her near your recovering mom anyways so maybe this is going through her head as well.

Post # 11
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well if they owe you $$ she wouldn’t be collecting a paycheck, but giving that money directly to you but I digress. I’d be highly pissed off and I would say something, but I don’t know if that is the right thing or not. At some point you ARE going to have to say something though. They are clearly taking advantage of your kindess and that is not okay. I can not imagine fake calling in sick when my job was taking care of a friend’s parent… I just can not fathom that. That is not something that someone who is a true, blue friend does. I’d try to gently draw a line in the sand before the situation gets worse. 

Post # 13
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s unfair of you to jump to the conclusion that this girl is faking being sick. 

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