- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
I’m sorry for the long rant, but I’m really hoping that someone can offer some advice/support. I am 21 and have been living at home while I am finishing my university degree. I graduate in December, and live at home with my parents and older brother.
My parents are incredibly overprotective and baby me. It is causing me anxiety, and over the past two years I have developed trichotillomania. I have my drivers license and if I want to go out, I have to leave a note and tell them how long I will be gone even if I’m only gone for 20mins.. AND they ring me while I’m out to check where I am. SO and I went on a holiday the past weekend for 3 nights, and they rang and text me every night. Heck, my mum still tries to tuck me into bed and when I tell her to leave me alone I get a guilt trip about how she has no babies left!
I know it is them causing my anxiety because as soon as I got home from our trip, I started pulling at my eyebrows so much and could not stop fidgeting. I sat them down before and told them the babying is too much and I need to be spoken to and treated like an adult, and they told me I was being cruel and that as the baby of the family I should be greatful that they treat me that way. I feel shaky and nervous every day. They took the lock off my bedroom door a few years ago and come in and out of my room without knocking, even when I am getting dressed.
I hope to get a job as soon as I graduate and move out, but while I still have another 5 months to go I feel like a wreck. SO is really thoughtful and listens to my problems and tries his best to give good advice, but nothing changes the way I’m treated. I don’t know what to do. Do any of you bees have any ideas or similar experiences?