Living Separately With Our Parents This Summer, God Help Me (TMI)

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
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Busy bee

Is late at night after everyone is in bed a possibility? What about a close friend with an extra bedroom? 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Why don’t both of you get jobs so that you can afford to go out and get a hotel room every once in a while?

 

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are there any house sitting opportunities where you live?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t have much advice on sexual intimacy options, but you can be creative for dates and do free or inexpensive activities together. Some times – go on  walks together, have picnics in parks, go to lookouts and look at the stars, etc. It’s amazing how intimate activites like that can be.

If you have a national park or campground nearby, campsites are usually really cheap for a night or two – a private tent and a fire are definitely romantic.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

coachhw:  

I moved back in with my parents two years ago to get my nursing degree (although my SO lives independently in another city). Our chances for intimacy when he visits me are extremely limited and if we try to be intimate it ends up being what my SO has nicknamed “meerkat sex”. Imagine two startled meerkats trying to have sex- it clearly does not happen. I guess I’m not “normal” then 😛 but I sympathize with your plight.

So quite often we’re averaging once a month (during the school year) of having sex. With school being over for the year if I visit him- it happens. A lot 😉

I agree with looking at free events in your city to find date ideas. Try being a tourist in your hometown- or going to a nearby town and doing “tourist-y” things there. With the warm weather upon us, you could try packing a picnic and heading to the beach for some couple time. My SO and I will poke around junk shops and antique shops for fun date ideas. We also go for a lot of walks.

 

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

It wasn’t because of college, but, FH and I are in a point where we are living in seperate households. We were renting a bedroom, but, had a blowout with two of our roommates since they were disrespectful & cliquey towards us. They also turned us discussing an issue as adults about another housemate that involved cops watching the house because of their activity into drama about us where I fistfought one of them and the roomie the issue was about’s family threatening FH’s livelyhood. They said they never wanted us to move out, but, that was the final straw. 

Thus far we have had sex in public places at night, in FH’s car, and also have invested in cheap hotel rooms. Even if it’s divey, the people keep to themselves and those offering services will also leave you alone if you decline politely.

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Honestly, I don’t think one month of no intimacy should be putting strain on your relationship, especially when it’s for a valid reason like no privacy. If you don’t have jobs you could probably just hang out late at night and just go at it when everyone is asleep.

Also, there are plenty of cheap/free things you can do for “dates.” You don’t need to spend money to have a good time.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

coachhw:  do people really get arrested for parking? Because if you find a secluded spot that shouldn’t be breaking those decency laws.

do either of yr families have a tent? Why not go camping?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

coachhw:  then a field where you can pitch a tent is an option right?

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

julies1949:  Uh, no way, if my housesitter had his/her SO over to have sex, that would be the end of the house-sitting gig. This is my home and while I don’t mind a house-sitter enjoying their stay, they’re here to work, not to hook up, and I would pop an eyeball if the aforementioned SO was someone I had never met. I don’t want strangers in my home and I don’t want to start drawing lines between a house-sitter’s steady SO and their casual fling. 

coachhw:  Depending on where you live, mystery shopping might be a way to get a free hotel stay, although you usually have to be “working” for the mystery shopping company for a little time doing restaurant or retail reviews before they let you sign up for hotel stays.  Usually you have to pay up front for the hotel stay and once you write your review, you get reimbursed or get the credit card charge reversed. The hotel gigs go pretty quickly so you have to earn your stripes even to get them offered, then check for opportunities pretty much daily, but if you live near even a medium-sized city, it’s worth looking into. Also look for groupons/travel zoo/etc vouchers for local hotel and B&B stays; there are some really good discounts out there, and you can ask for groupon gift cards for birthdays and other gift-giving occasions if you have one coming up and don’t feel like asking outright for a little getaway.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Horseradish:  Lots of people contract with couples to housesit. If the couple is living in the house, they are fully entitled to have sex in that house.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with go camping. Tent sex can be fun 

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