Living together before marriage

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: Did you live together before marriage?
    Yes : (535 votes)
    83 %
    No : (108 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1833 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @Firemansgirl:  Makes sense to move in together since he is buying a house. I say go for it! Plus it makes financial sense as well.

    Post # 4
    Member
    724 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    As long as you have no moral opposition to it I say go for it.  To me it only makes sense to get to know someone’s living habits and get the kinks worked out before you get married.  That way you can truly enjoy your “honeymoon period” without struggling to adjust.  Just my two cents. 🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    1579 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    I would move in if he’s going ahead and buying a house and you are getting married a few months later.

     

    My FI and I moved in together to share the living expenses. Living by yourself is wayyy too expensive!

    Post # 7
    Member
    1309 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    DH and I lived together for just over 5 years before we got married. I couldn’t imagine not living with the person I was going to marry beforehand. It really tests the relationship being together 24/7 and sharing responsibilities.

    Post # 8
    Member
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    My BF and I are both 22 and we literally just bought a house together and moved in on Friday! So far we love it! haha. I think you have to decide if that’s okay with you. I think nowadays the majority of people do live together before they are married.

    Post # 9
    Member
    11178 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    My DH and I did not, since, because of our faith, we were morally opposed to living together or having a sexual relationship outside of a marriage commitment. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    533 posts
    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t marry someone with living with them first. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I say it depends on the couple and their life. If Fi and I were in the same place we lived together. That being said because of a prior experience I don’t think I would have lived with Fi if we weren’t engaged. That just my personal preference. There are pros and cons to both. If it makes sense for you and your finances then go for it.

    If you just feel like you enjoy living together after the wedding then do that. Just go for with you gut.

    Post # 12
    Member
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’d live with my fiance if I could!  Only we can’t live together until I finish my degree next year and can move to his country. Then once he’s finished his we can move back to mine, really not a fan of his country. Being legally bound should def help with the visa process. If we could live together without doing so I don’t think we’d bother to be honest. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    9484 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    DH and I lived together before marriage.  We were in a semi-LDR (same state, but different counties) and we were finding it tough traveling back and forth after awhile.  I was a broke college student and he was working full-time on some weekends too.  It made life easier for us.  So for us the next step would be to live together before we decided to take the next big step of being engaged then married.  I feel it’s important to know someone and their living habits beforehand.  It’s easier to adjust during that time.  It may not be for everyone though and that’s perfectly fine too.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Not right now, but I’ll be moving in a few months before our wedding!

    Post # 15
    Member
    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    FI and I decided we didn’t want to move in together before we got married because we felt it would make the wedding feel more special, like there was a very definitive change between before we were married and after we were. I’ve heard a lot of my friends/family who lived together for a while first say that nothing felt very different, and we really wanted that different feeling so that’s what we chose. But if that’s what you want to do then go for it!

    Post # 16
    Member
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would also consider how your parents might react. If it would upset your parents, you should discuss with FI whether it’s worth having that between them.

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