Living with another couple

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Damn. I give you credit girl. I could never live with other people like that. I’m extremely stubborn & need peace & quiet in my life. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Unless it’s completely unavoidable, run screaming the opposite direction and sleep in a van down by the river!

We lived with another couple and had to deal with their constant fighting and loud making up sex until they finally broke up.  We felt like their maids as well because we liked to live in a somewhat clean house and they were fine living in what looked like pig squalor when we moved in.  We would bleach the whole house top to bottom about once a month and within hours (hours!!!!), it would be filthy and stacks of dishes would be pilled up in the sink.  It was like when we cleaned there was a vortex that sucked all of the dirt and dirty dishes out of the rooms we couldn’t clean and deposited it in the parts of the house we had just cleaned.

It’s not worth the savings on rent/utilities/whatever.  My husband and I fought all the time because the stress from the roommates and the filthy house made us grumpy with each other.  Once we moved out our relaitonship issues magically disappeared.  I think being about to clean the house once a month and it remaining mostly clean until the next cleaning did a lot to reduce our stress levels.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

oh man, I hear you. I don’t think I could ever do the roommate thing ever again, but especially not as part of a couple! what a nightmare. 

are you able to get your own place soon? 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Ugh, I feel your pain! My SO and I are just living with one of his old co-workers/friends, but it has been terrible. Luckily we are about halfway through our lease, and my SO told him last night that we won’t be renewing with him on the lease next year because we are planning on getting married, so we want to live alone. That’s actually only like 1% of the reason that we want him out though LOL.

He is soo dirty. Like we moved in in August, and he kept saying how he needed to buy cleaning supplies to clean his bathroom, but he never did. Finally last week my SO and I decided to clean his bathroom because we will be keeping this apartment when he leaves, and it was so gross! He had a girlfriend when we moved in that would come and stay for 2-5 days per week without paying any rent, and she would eat our food that he wasn’t even paying for himself, take showers, etc. which adds to the bill little by little. They ended up breaking up a few months ago, and now he uses us as therapists to listen to his problems and help him find a new girlfriend. He also constantly has people over, and sometimes he will just leave the house or go to bed when they are still here, so we feel like we have to entertain them or watch them for a few hours at a time. My SO and I have furnished the entire shared part of the apartment, so we feel like we need to watch anyone who comes in because none of them respect our stuff as much as we do or our friends would. Our roommate also started complaining about my SO’s mom and dad visiting the other day. They have been over maybe four times since we moved in in August! SO’s watch also mysteriously disappeared a month or so ago. 

I just can’t wait until August ends! Maybe he will decide to move out sooner. We are probably saving about $400 per month having him here, but it is sooo not worth it. I just want to be able to come home, sit around in my underwear and not worry about who is going to come over at 11 PM!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@FutureMrsB123:  Yes, so do we! Luckily we bought all of the pots and pans. Our roommate always complains that everything is ours, but he has yet to go out and get anything of his own. If we would have waited for him to buy things we wouldn’t have plates, pans, etc. LOL We used to split grocery bills in thirds, and each of us paid a little. For three of us it ended up being just under $100 each which is so cheap in our area. I made sure I bought stuff that everyone liked, and our roommate ate the dinners I cooked every night. Apparently $100 is too much, so he decided to start buying his own groceries, but still using our toilet paper, paper towels, eating our leftovers, etc. It’s like that all still costs money, so I end up having to put it in somewhere else when I get the money from him every month. I hate doing that, but he won’t pay for what he uses otherwise.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@FutureMrsB123:  In my last relationship we lived in a 4 bedroom house with myself, my ex and our two kids all smushed into on tiny 8X10 room, then in the other rooms, his neice, three of his brothers and two of his cousins. The bathroom, living room, dining room and kitchen all shared space. We lived that was for 3 years. I hid in my bedroom with two kids for 3 years.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband (BF at the time) lived with another couple for about 9 months. It wasn’t horrible – we are still really good friends with that couple, but it can be hard! Sometimes I wanted to be alone, so I would have to lock myself in our bedroom. I would look like a total bitch to everyone else, but sometimes you just don’t want to socialize. I hated not having a place to go home to every night where I felt comfortable and that I could be myself.

When they moved out and we got our own place, it was all the better though. Keep looking forward to that!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@FutureMrsB123: I feel your pain. While I havent lived with another couple me and DH lived with his parents for almost 2 years and that was bad enough! WE didnt have our own area in the home (besides our room) so we had to shre the kitchen bathroom and common areas.They always had family and friends over and always made nasty smelling food in the house and all my clothes smelt! It was horrible! Lets just say I spent alot of time locked in our room. I have never felt happier then the day we got a our own house and moved out of there! I could never live with other people ever again besides my DH

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We shared with other couples for a few years. It was hard. We just basically lived out of our rooms, and it felt like we couldn’t breathe. It’s so awesome to get out. Not worth the savings in the end.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We did the same thing…during our first year of marriage! I’m like you – introverted and in need of my own space. It was reeallllyyyy difficult to share a house with a very extroverted couple! I think the only way I survived was knowing it was just for one year. When we moved away and into a teeny tiny apartment by ourselves, it felt SO awesome!! 

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