(Closed) Living with family… and Jehovah’s Witnesses… LONG

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wait, what!? Only 144,000? I’d think it was already stuffed full! damn!

Kidding of course, I don’t think there’s a limit in heaven.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My advice would be to just let it go. They have chosen to live a certain way and whatever way that is they alone are adults and will be responsible for any consequences related to that. Feel free to inform yourself on what actual devout witnesses believe. If you really want to address your concerns, maybe you could bring it up as ‘hey, I was researching this because I wanted to know more about it since you converted.’ maybe bring up the points you don’t understand and hear them out. 

Besides that, it’s really their life and all you can do is live your own. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@deetroitwhat:  We are non-denominational as well. I don’t know how close you and your brother are but maybe you could bring it up to him and just ask about their beliefs? I know it would drive me crazy to see that! I don’t think it would be good to ask if it would piss them off but maybe you could ask about stuff they believe in and when they say “we can’t drink” you could be like “oh, I didn’t know because I thought you guys were hungover that one time?”. Maybe that would be a bad idea though. I am a really straight forward person and if something bothers me I will usually talk about it. Good luck! I’ll pray that God gives you patience with them Wink

Post # 8
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Honey bee

I would just ignore it. It’s not like they asked you not to celebrate birthdays or not get drunk, they just told you their beliefs. Whether they chose to follow it is their choice.

I know plenty of people (of all different religions) who only follow “the rules” of their religion when it’s conveniet for them.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

How many Christians, Jews, or others do you see following their religious rules as strict as possible? People lasp and some are just lazy. No one will ever be able to live up to their religion’s standard.

So, I’d let it go. Let them pick what they want to follow and what they dont. They’ll either give it up all together or continue on in their ways.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Meh – there are TONS of people who are Christians (of any and all denominations) who don’t always follow a strictly Christian lifestyle.  None of us are perfect in our beliefs but we try to do the best we can.

ETA: I think they told you their “rules” because many people aren’t very familiar with Jehovahs Witnesses and therefore they wanted to help you understand why they would/wouldn’t do certain things.  Like for example, not eating a birthday cupcake.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I just want to pop in and say that an ex of mine always asked why they recruited.

I’d let it go, you won’t be able to change their ways. Only they can do that.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree that no one is perfect. Maybe someday they will get serious about what they believe but until then…. it’s just a grand game of holier-than-thou. 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh how I understand the confusion!  My mom went back to being a JW after my Dad died.  We didn’t really grow up with it, so it was a shock to my brother and me when it happened.  But since it made her happy and helped her cope with my Dad’s death we went with it.  

Things get tricky when they start justifying things though.  Like when my mom decided it would be okay to join us for Christmas this year since my FH and I aren’t religious and she wanted to be there for my daughters first Christmas.  Huh?  Just because we don’t go to a mass we don’t celebrate Christmas?  My house was decorated with the ornamnets she had collected when she and my dad did celebrate the holidays.  

You want to support and respect your family’s choices, but sometimes they make it so hard!  My brother and I joke around now and say she’s a part-time Jehova. Ultimately it’s a religion like any other made of humans that are flawed.  Unfortunately, this religion has a tendancy to confuse not only its members but, also those outside of it. (Wait til you get to a no blood issue..)

I’m like you I totally respect the religion as any other. It’s just hard when you’re in middle of justifications you don’t really understand from either perspective.  On another note: Congrats on your marriage! Thanks for your service! And I hope things get better soon, even if that just means becoming a little more numb to the confusing situtations.

 

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