Post # 1
Hey me and fiancés lease is up in June, we’re married in march. Once our lease is up we’re planning to move in with his parents for 4 months, and then my parents for 4 months while our home us being built. we want to save money and I’m going back to school plus we need a down payment. We’re also giving up one car so we’ll be sharing! Luckily the in laws love me however his mom has a tendency to be overbearing but 4 months is not too scary for me- we’re gonna pose it as we’re staying, not moving in.
Im a a bit scared about boundaries after this! How can I save the relation while doing this? We’re gonna save 30 grand
Post # 2
chantal.breanne.3: Wow! rent must be exhorbitant where you live, if you can save $30,000 by not paying rent for 8 months!
Post # 3
I would not hesitate to do what yuo’re doing if it was short term like that and I could save that much money!
I’d make sure you don’t argue in front of the parents, or talk about any issues you may be having. Don’t discuss your relationship with the parents at all. Also make sure you get out of the house a lot and go on dates, do things together. maybe have quiet time in your room or “area” together on a schedue. Say… at 7:00 go “to bed” and just be together.
That’s all I have, I’ve never done this but not spending every waking moment with them will help keep everyone’s sanity and separate your relationships.
Post # 4
My husband and I have been living with my parents for 8 months now, but we close on our house on Tuesday! My parents house is not the easiest place to live, but it was definitely do-able and your situation might be easier than ours. 90% of the time it’s been perfectly fine. It’s good that you are moving after the wedding, we moved the month before and there were definitely some blow-ups at first with my parents due to wedding stressors.
I would second what MsJ2theZ said, make sure you spend time out of the house and alone. We do just what she suggested and “go to bed” around 7 or so every night. But this just means watching stuff on netflix in our room. We also eat on our own. It helps that my parents eat extremely late, so I can cook and we can be out of the kitchen way before my mom even thinks about cooking dinner.
That being said, it’s definitely not how we considered our almost first year of marriage to be, and it has been hard on our relationship at times, but I think it’s totally worth it in the end. If we had continued to rent we had thought that it would have taken us a year to save up the money…seeing as it took us 5-6 months to save up while not paying rent, it would have been at least 2 years before we had had enough. Your own home will be so worth it in the end.
Post # 5
julies1949: well we’re including rent food cable Hydro and also giving up one car and one insurance payment