Lodging for bridal party- dilemma!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
81 posts
Worker bee

@gingerkitten:  Maybe you could leave her in the room with the other BM and put him in the room with the GM? Or alternatively is there at least a couch in some common area for him?
At least that way he’d be able to go and fit in the villa, even if they can’t spend the nights together. You’ve been generous to provide lodging for your guests, and thoughtful when booking. She should be understanding that her situation changed and either accept what you can now offer her or not. If they want their own couple room they could always get one with the guests.

ETA: I would not do the option where you give them your room. As hostess, it’d be awkward to give up your room when everyone is there to celebrate for your wedding. You don’t want your guest to feel like they’re putting you out; better to accomodate them as best you can within the reasonable confines of the rooms you’ve already got assigned.

Post # 4
4366 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@taylorbee:  +1


New boyfriend shares a room with the single groomsman and the two bridesmaids share a room. If need be, add a cot to the room for the guys (I’m guessing that there is only one bed in that room since you would put a couple in there). Should anyone have a problem with the sleeping arrangements they are free to stay elsewhere. Don’t mention the possibility of the bridesmaid dropping out because then she might feel like she has to (if the other bridesmaid pressures her). If the bridesmaid does drop out, then you can let the new boyfriend share a room with his girlfriend.

You’re very generous to pay for the villa. The bridesmaid and her boyfriend should understand that their status changed after arrangements were made and that you made every effort to accomodate everyone given the information you had at the time (that the bridesmaid was single and not looking for a boyfriend).


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