Post # 1
So I have a couple of logisitic questions I need help with. The first once is regarding the entrance to the reception. Should we do a proper entrance or can we jsut turn up with the bridal party once the photos are done? I dont really like the proper announced entrances with a special song etc, I would rather just rock up with the bridal party and just be there while everyone is having their canapes etc served. but would this be weird???
Second question is, what order should everything be in? (dinner, speeches, first dance, bouqet toss, cake cutting etc)
What kind of music do you have playing during dinner etc? we are having really club type, dance music when the dancing kicks in so do we just have chilled, laid back, music going while dinner and everything else is happening?
Lastly, I am having my friend as MC. Does she just need to know the nights timeline and make introductions etc?? ie “gemma’s father would now like to make a speech” “or please make your way to the dance floor for the bride and grooms first dance” or something like that?
oh which actually brings me to one last point. I am actually considering not doing a first dance because I dont like being the centre of attention and what not and everyone looking at me, however I would like to have that moment. Any advice? we wouldnt take dancing lessons and would basically just stand there and sway lol. is that just going to be odd and awkward or should we just skip it?
Is there anything I have missed that I should know as well? It is all the small logistics that I am worrying about ! Thanks for any input and sorry for all the questions in one post =)
Post # 4
If you don’t want a grand entrance, don’t have one. We’re not doing one.
Lots of options for order but traditional is entrance, grace, dinner, toasts, first dance, dancing, cake, dancing, bouquet toss. But this gets changed around all the time. There are benefits to different orders based on how you want your night to go.
Casual, low-key music will be fine for dinner. And played much more softly than dance music.
I would let your friend know what all you want announced. She should also help keep things on track time wise. She should also chekc to make sure everything is readdy and everyone is there before making an annoucement.
I would do a first dance and just make it really short. Otherwise I think it might be hard to get people to dance.
Post # 5
I think it may be weird if you don’t do a formal entrance… I think you will forget the stage freight you’ll be caught in the moment.
Also yes you would give the MC some names and info on speeches so she knows things like that.
i would have more laid back music for dinner.. something soft and not distracting because you dont want your dance songs playing at dinner and during dance time.. you’ll feel like that radio station that overplays things…
My SO and I aren’t amazing dancers either. you dont have to go up there and do a ballroom dance.. you can pick a slow dance song that means a lot and just sway back and forth and turning… it wont be that bad. I’m not dancer and not a center stage girl either but i cannot wait to have that moment for us~!!
Post # 6
I think you can mostly do what you want, but bear in mind that if you eliminate all of the traditional events, your wedding will seem less about you and your husband and more like any other party.
That said, there’s no reason to stress yourself out with stage fright. I think it’s perfectly fine to just show up at the reception if you want to, although some of your guests will think it strange.
As for the first dance, I’ve always liked this idea (because I think it’s boring to watch one couple sway back and forth for 5 minutes): You and your husband “open the floor” with a first dance, but halfway into the song the emcee can invite other couples to the floor, i.e. “now can we have the wedding party come to the floor . . . now the parents of the bride and groom . . . now any other married couples . . .”
I definitely think you should have softer music during dinner.
Hope this helps!
Post # 7
Instead of dancing a whole song with your new hubby, your Dad could cut in to dance with you, your hubby then dances with your Mom. A few bars later your FIL cuts in, your hubby dances with his Mom, your parents dance together. A few bars later you end up with hubby, both ss of parents are dancing together and the bridal party joins in.
Pretty soon everyone is dancing.
Post # 8
I am definitely not doing an announcement when entering the reception. We are playing jazzy oldies mixed with some low key indie rock songs during the cocktails and dinner. That was actually my favorite playlist to make since I didn’t have to worry about keeping multiple different people dancing. You could consider some sort of downtempo/world music like the band thievery corporation for dinner, that would flow perfectly into club music during dancing time!