Post # 1
Because our wedding venue only allows 70 people, and our reception venue up to 100, we are inviting some people to the reception only. (I know that it’s normally the other way around, but anyway. The reception-only people will mostly be work colleagues.)
So that means we need to have a separate reception-only invitation. But then I’m working about the rest of the paper we’ll need to produce: the main wedding invite, the RSVP and the map diretions card.
Do you think we need to do an entirely separate set of RSVP cards, map card that are for the reception only and don’t mention the ceremony, to avoid offence?
And what about our web site? We plan to have some FAQs and stuff about the entire wedding there – but would it be offensive to the reception-only people giving them info about a ceremony they’re not invited too? I think a separate reception-only website would be overkill.
Finally, for those people who are invited to the whole wedding, should we give them two invitations (one for the ceremony and one for the reception) or just a single invitation? We have to do the separare reception invite anyway.
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
@clairebbbear: I personally would be very careful in this situation, some people might feel offended/upset about being invited to the reception only (IMO) some people don’t even go to the ceremony and just the reception. In this case I would make 2 seperate invites. I would make one for the ceremony/reception than another for the reception only. You could probably use the same RSVP card (normally people don’t respond for the ceremony). I would also make 2 seperate maps, you don’t want people invited to the reception only to assume they’re invited to the ceremony based on the map. Regarding the website, again, careful situation, some people might really want to see you get married, than be upset that they’re not invited. Others may feel you’re playing “favorites”, and others might just not care.
either way, I hope things work out for the best!
Post # 4
@clairebbbear: I’m having two receptions (one for those invited to the actual wedding and then a second one a month later for our hometown reception). I actually am doing two sets of invites…one to each reception and I have two different websites. I haven’t quite figured out how I’m going to handle the invites for people who are invited to BOTH receptions, but I’ll figure that out later this week.
So my vote is for…. at the very least have two different sets of wedding websites, just so everything is crystal clear for each “set” of guests and so there are no hard feelings.
Post # 5
Our invitation is for the reception with a seperate enclosure card ceremony people who are invited to the ceremony.
This was a compromise between FI and I as I didn’t want a big wedding at all.