(Closed) Logistics question…potential bridesmaid issue

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m kind of in the same boat. I have a bridesmaid who is working out of state at a summer camp. My wedding is on a saturday, and she recently told me that she is going to drive up friday afternoon, then leave sunday morning. I feel like she doesn’t understand her responsibility as a bridesmaid! I need her for more than just being a body to walk down the isle! I plan to talk to her about it soon, although I haven’t figured out exactly how…

Post # 6
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Haha carpooling would’ve been great!

Is it that she CANNOT be there for the rehearsal or just doesn’t want to get to your area that early?

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  I don’t think it’s a big deal if she’s not there.  All she has to do is walk down the aisle when she is told to go down it and then walk out in line. It’s not too difficult. Plus, even with a rehersal, people forget and mess things up anyways!  It sucks she’s being a biatch but it’s her loss ultimately. Have fun and enjoy with the awesome people!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sucks she has a crappy attitude about the texts and stuff (I wouldn’t worry about where she’s staying though, that’s something that really won’t have an effect on you the day of – and if I were her I wouldn’t be able to take more than a couple of days off either), but she’ll be fine even without the rehersal. I’m presuming she won’t be going down the aisle first since she’s not MOH, just tell her where her spot in the line is. I know we drive ourselves crazy organizing and analyzing every last detail…but really, when it comes down to it she is just walking down the aisle, standing in place during the ceremony, then walking back down the aisle after. Pretty simple, you can give her some brief instructions but I doubt they’ll really be necessary

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We didn’t have a rehearsal for our wedding, and it was fine.  It’s not rocket science.  I wouldn’t worry about it too much.

Post # 11
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@peachacid:  Aww I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to make the panic worse! It will all come together and look great, I promise. There will inevitably be some small glitches but nothing that you’ll even really care about the day of. As far as the ceremony goes…you just need to decide what music you want, and what order you want people to walk in!

Post # 12
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

As long as you keep your BM updated and make sure she knows who she’s walking ahead/behind of, it should be fine I think! Too bad her attitude sucks though :/ 

Post # 13
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7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It’s really not that complicated what a BM does during the ceremony. If she misses the rehearsal, another BM can fill her in on the details in about 15 seconds.

Post # 14
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’ll totally be fine! And don’t worry that she’s only coming for two nights–that’s all you really need her for! 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Weddings are expensive! I can totally understand why she’s chosen the cheapest option for accom especially if she’s already had to pay for a dress, shoes, hair & makeup, gifts etc. Being a bridesmaid sucks! I don’t think it will matter if she misses the rehearsal dinner, as PPs have said, she just needs to know when to walk & a basic timeline of the day

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