Post # 1
I’m still in the very early stages of planning, but was thinking about how to walk down the aisle.
I like the idea of my FI meeting me halfway and walking to the altar together, and I also like the idea of both my parents walking me down the aisle… so I would like to combine these- walk halfway with both my parents and then have FI meet me and walk up together.
Has anyone seen this? I’m trying to figure out if we could make this work. Where would my parents go when we got to the 1/2 way mark? Would they just keep walking up the aisle take their seats and sort of pass my FI on his way to meet me? Would that be weird? I guess I’m just having trouble envisioning this.
Post # 3
If both parents walk you down the aisle, make sure in advance that your ceremony venue has a very wide aisle. Otherwise, it’s awkward – both to walk it and to watch it!!!!
Personally, I like the father/mother/parents to take the bride all the way up to the groom vs. meeting half-way. I just think there’s more drama (in a good way!) to make him wait until you reach the alter area and meet him there. Your photog will also be able to get more pictures of his expressions – and yours.
Post # 4
I see what you’re saying, and I think that’s something to consider.
I like the idea of FI meeting me half-way b/c I feel like it is somewhat symbolic of independence and the beginning of life as a married couple.
I love my parents with all my heart and definitely want to include and acknowledge them in the ceremony. They are a bit dysfunctional though and I have been out of their house for 10 years.
I remember having long talks with my mother in high school, and I do think that she gave good advice. To this day, I’d say I have a close relationship with my mother, but it is not at all a typical parent-child relationship. If anything, it has always been more like I am the parent and she is the child.
Maybe I am being unreasonable, but I just don’t know if I feel they have really “supported” me to have them walk me down the aisle. I’m not articulating this well… I guess it is just that, on some level, I wouldn’t feel right about it.
Post # 5
I’m planning to walk with my dad to the front row, hug him and my mom, and walk the rest of the way up alone (the same symbolic independence thing–I figure the wedding is symbolic of our togetherness, so I want to demonstrate my independence). I’ll make sure the first row of seats is far enough back from where I will stand that it is clear I am walking up alone without any sort of “giving away.”
Post # 6
I was going back and forth on thids for a while. My dad has not been there the way that he should, so I didn’t feel comfortable with him having this honor. I have decided to have Fi meet me halfway. I LOVE this idea and I am so happy with it. I will then have my family (mom, dad, brothers, and sisters) stand around us and when the Minister asks who gives me away they’ll all say “We do!”
Post # 7
You might consider the traditional Jewish custom: his parents escort him (maybe halfway?), then yours escort you. Each set of parents could then sit down, and the two of you could continue the rest of the way together. That way, the contributions of both sets of parents could be acknowledged, without the “giving away” thing.
Post # 8
I don’t mind the groom meeting you halfway down – althought I did see a wedding where each bridesmaid walked halfway down and then the groomsman met her halfway and escorted her from there – I didn’t like it for that (just seemed awkard).
I would say if you’re having both parents escort you and him meeting you halfway to make sure to practice the “hand off” (haha! not sure whatelse to call it) because there will be a lot of people in the aisle and it could look strange.