Post # 1
I have been feeling very very lonely as my wedding approaches. I feel like non of my bridesmaid are happy with any of the decisions I’ve made. I’m trying to make everyone feel as comfortable as possible, but I feel like I can’t win. I thought they would be more willing to make me feel special, but they haven’t. I know they are all very busy, but in a way, it makes me feel like I’m not as important to them as I thought I was.
Post # 2
you are not alone my friend. definitely not alone.
Post # 3
wordena7: YOU are important to your friends. Your wedding is not. Do what’s right for you and your FI, your friends don’t have to love your decor or otherwise. However, be nice when it comes to the things they are directly involved in. If they hate the dresses you choose for them, please reconsider. Keep any costs to them reasonable. Rest assured that they are happy for you.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2014 - Morton Arboretum
They are happy for you, but please understand this is your and your FI day. You need to make each other happy. The Bridal Party, they feel they have expensive front row seats, but also have to run around for pictures. ANyone that said being in a bridal party is easy, they are wrong, it is a lot of responsibility and it is work. The day of, they are 100% all yours, but until then, give them some slack, it is a big commitment to be in a wedding, fiancially and time. They love you, they are your friends, but weddings are stressful.
Your day will be beautiful is you remember it really is only about you and your FI and your love for wach other. P.S. they usually will not tell you if they really hate the dress, you kinda have to feel that one out.
Post # 5
Unfortunately, some bridal parties are more difficult than others. You most likely won’t be able to make your bridesmaids completely comfortable. The best you can do is make reasonable choices for what they wear and what you have them do.
Make your decisions regarding the bridesmaids, and stick to those decisions. If they complain and their complaints aren’t reasonable, or you’ve already fixed a problem and they still complain, just make it clear that the issue isn’t open for discussion anymore. It sounds mean, but you’re planning an event and events are time sensitive; getting things finalized is the name of the game.
Keep in mind that they whole point of the event is that you marry your fiancé, and that the bridal party simply doesn’t play a real role in that. They are not essential to the process. I’m sorry you’re feeling lonely. I hope this issue, and all the other issues with the bridesmaids, gets worked out as soon as possible