Post # 1
So although I am a year out from my wedding (july 23rd, 2012), I am very sad to find that I really don’t have many friends. Okay, not really ANY friends. It’s not like I am an unlikeable person, it just seems that after high school, everyone went their separate ways, and after I met my FI I really stopped noticing I did not have any “girlfriends”. It may seem a little selfish but I got a bit jealouse when a coworker of mine was talking about all her friends throwing her a shower, and bachelorette party, because i don’t have that. My coworkers and I do not really click on the friendship level (I have tried hanging out with them but most are a lot younger than I am, and in a very different place in life). I am not sure what to do, I just miss hanging out with the girls, and getting married has magnified my loss of women friends.
Post # 3
Is there a way you can get out to meet people with similar interests? Maybe volunteering or something?
It’s tough not having friends to hang out with. I didn’t really here until I started working at my new job.
Post # 4
If this is something you want, not necessarily for the wedding, but really want in your life, then I suggest putting yourself out there to meet new people.
A friend of mine moved to a different state and knew no one. She joined a young professionals group, joined a social club, answered meet up ads on craigslist (this one always sounded a little dangerous to me- so be careful if you do it!) joined a kickball team. Shes met a couple girls so far that shes clicked with.
Meeting new people is hard and intimidating, you have to make an effort. I wish you the best of luck and I’m sorry you are feeling lonely!
Post # 5
Another thought is to find something that interests you and take a class, youll meet people with a similar interest which will make it easy to start conversation.
There are cooking, knitting, music, craft and all sorts of classes.
Post # 6
I can relate. The sad part is that all of these suggestions about taking classes and whatnot don’t apply to me. We don’t have that out here – at least not within a couple hours of driving. I’m hoping that I will be able to relate better to other parents once my child is born and a little older. The women who are around are all rough and tumble, drink every weekend night, chew AND swallow the tobacco kind of people… It’s fine for them, but we just don’t get along.
BUT if you do have access to town, start taking like a Zumba or Yoga class at the YMCA. Maybe take up ceramics or painting. You could also occasionally volunteer. But all of those will take extra effort on your part, and you will have to be courageous enough to approach people and possibly face rejection (it’s kind of like dating :)). Anyway, if you are just trying to vent, I hear ya, and I do feel your pain. 🙁