Long, but I need a little help :(

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@ShabbyChicBee:  YIKES and HUGS. i think thats a tough situation you’re in. you’ve talked to him and he seems that nonchalant. did something happen between both of them (a fight/arguement) that neither of them are telling you? how was your FI relationship with your bro like earlier on?  was he always this distant? to me – there seems to be something underlying the situation – that its not all that it seems to be. there has to be a reason that your FI is being this distant. i would talk to him again and just bring up how YOU feel – exactly what you said here – how you try to get along with your family, how he’s hanging out with the other guy.. say how you’re family is being left in the dust and how its hurting you. maybe if he sees/hears how its affecting you maybe he’ll put in more effort? 

Post # 5
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@ShabbyChicBee:  i could understand it just being easy for him to hang out with his other BIL and the long drive could be a deterant but not to email/text/call your bro after an invite even if it was to decline seems odd. i’m extremely close with my family too and so is my FI but things could of happened that they both swore that they’d never discuss – not trying to add fuel to the fire here, but your FI seems just so distant to your bro that and thats after you guys were so close for so long that it just seems ODD.. you know your family and his very well. what does your gut/instincts tell you? talk with your FI anyways and just say how you feel with out him getting ‘miffed’. did anything else change – on your brothers end? new job? fighting with your SIL? anything that would make you go… maybe…. ??? that could be a reason why your FI is avoiding him?? 

Post # 6
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109 posts
Blushing bee

@ShabbyChicBee:  

I’m sorry, my heart hurts for your brother!  You seem like a very sweet person, so I assume your FI isn’t a mean person.  It sounds like he’s being defensive, which makes me think he knows he’s doing something wrong.  Is there any chance the three of them could get together?  Or would your brother just be a third wheel?

Post # 9
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@ShabbyChicBee:  i am glad you’re feeling better! just keep communication open with your FI when you need to talk and you’ll find that everything works out in the end!

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