Post # 1
I am generally more of a lurker but have turned to all you lovely people for a vent / help. I have only just realised that the length of my cycle is considered unusually long (39-40 days). I have been reading up that this could be signs of anovulatory cycles 🙁
On top of this my husband’s line of work means that when we do start trying we’ll only have every 2nd month and given my long cycles this could mean even less than 6 opportunities a year. I can tend to over-analyse (especially health related issues) so I am getting myself a bit worked up. My husband is not yet ready and I will be 30 soon so pile that on top of my growing list of concerns!
I really don’t want to pressure my husband as I don’t think that is healthy for our relationship or for starting a family. I feel by talking to him too much about my concerns that it will come across as me pressuring him. I have talked to him about it and his main concern is that by me over-analysing and stressing, it certainly won’t help our chances as well as the fact he wants me to be happy!
Do you think that it is worth me doing a more effortful investigation into my ovulation (i.e. use a kit, thermometer etc.) or do you think I should re-focus onto something else and deal with issues if they arise as we are not ttc yet? Any other advice is welcome!
Post # 3
It’s never too early to start charting. That way, when you do start TTC, you will have a baseline. Good luck!
Post # 4
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: Thank you for your response 🙂 i have been tracking my cycle on an app, but maybe i’ll start adding in temp checks – like you said it’s never too early!
Post # 5
bump? any positive stories of ovulatory cycles that are just longer?
Post # 6
@Idling: Definitely start charting! If you see a temperature shift, you’ll know you’re ovulating. I charted right away, coming off the pill, and it was very reassuring to see temperature shifts. One month, I didn’t see one, and assumed it must have been annovulatory, which doubly reassured me on the other months, if that makes sense. It took us about 8 months to get pregnant. In that time, my cycles ran from between 35 and 39 days.
Post # 7
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Just chart with cervical fluid and temps. It’s seriously 60 seconds of your day. If you’re ovulating, you’re ok with long cycles. If not, you at least have good data for when you start troubleshooting.
Post # 8
Hi! I have a 35 day cycle and have been temping and charting my cervical mucous for 6 months. I definitely ovulate (temp spikes, noticeable change in CM and ovulation pain.)
I think you should absolutely start charting as it may take you a few months to see a pattern and work out what your cycles do. Plus it’s also actually really neat when you see what your body is doing. I love it! I recommend temping and checking your CM. Buy an ovulation thermometer and then there is heaps of info about how to do it online.
Post # 9
Thanks so much- I am going to get onto it 🙂 I have been taking note of CM which seems to go in the expected cycle, but will add in the temp charting just to check if I am ovulating! It’s so nice to be able to get some other opinions.
Post # 10
My cycles are long-ish (30-35 days) so not too long but never only 28 days! I started temping about 8 months before we TTC.
Post # 11
@Idling: I had longer cycles 36-37 days when I came off BC. Not quite as long as yours, but I got pregnant the second cycle off and I wasn’t charting or anything. It was pure luck that the one time we had unprotected sex I got pregnant. If you know you want to TTC in the near future and you’re concerned about not ovulating/ovulating late, I don’t think it hurts to chart or use OPKs just to see if you even are ovulating and get a general idea when, especially if you are a worrier. You don’t have to necessarily bring your husband into it all with the details. You can definitely use OPKs without him being aware. You don’t have to run up to him being like I’m ovulating, we have to have sex! Just keep it quiet and once you decide to TTC, just initiate sex on days when you know you’re fertile! 😉 That’s what I would do at least. Good luck!
FWIW, I think a lot of people tend to worry about the worst case scenario when starting to TTC and most of those people had nothing to worry about to begin with. So, just try and stay positive and not worry until you know you have something to worry about. I thought I would have trouble getting pregnant simply because I never had any pregnancy scares even though I was never that diligent about taking BC on time and I knew tons of people who got pregnant on the pill. Well, as my mother always warned me (which I used to roll my eyes at) it only takes one time! 😉
Post # 12
@MrsWBS: Oh thanks heaps for that- you’ve read me well haha… I generally don’t stress about anything but occasionally health concerns can drag me down! dr google is definitely not good for me 🙂 my husband has been super reassuring and funny which has pulled me out of my worry! Still agree that it’s worth me checking ovulation anyway but feeling a lot better now. Thank you!