long distance bridal party

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

NormaJean:  I would just ask them to choose a dress of their choice in the color, fabric and length you prefer. You can give them a paint sample from the hardware store to match for color, or you could pick something simple like black.

If you want final approval, you can ask them to text you a pic before they purchase a dress.

Post # 3
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

There are different things you could do for this. it seems in most instances bridesmaids dread the dress they have to wear and will likely never wear it again. Some brides do something I’m sure the bridesmaids REALLY appreciate, and they let them pick out their own dress as long as it’s a certain color(s). This makes it a bit more likely that they will feel good about themselves while wearing the dress and that they will more likely wear it again. You can give stipulations to the length you want them to have, ect, or maybe you don’t care what kind of bridal party dress they pick so long as the color is correct.

The other thing you can do is (if you want them l to match dresses) You can find a dress for them online. maybe pick out 3-4 options and send them all a picture of them, asking which one they like the best out of those. Whichever the majority chooses, you can have them purchase that dress in their size. Usually I hear bridesmaids dresses need fitted anyway so they can get alterations if the dress from online isnt a perfect fit. 

Best of luck!

Post # 4
812 posts
Busy bee

I am doing what the first Poster said. I gave a color, length, and material I wanted and told them to pick out whatever style as long as it fit the guidelines. I have no bridal party near me. I also use Pinterest and emails to communicate in a group setting to make everyone feel included. 

Post # 6
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Mine were across three different states (and none in the same state as me!). We were going to do all different with similar colour theme with everyone shopping separately but I ended up buying one type of dress online in their sizes, and mailing them to everyone, and having them alter it if needed. It actually was a lot easier than I thought it would be!  Just pick a style and colour that will be flattering to all. 

Post # 7
812 posts
Busy bee

if you want it to be exactly uniformed you are probably going to have to get their sizes and find a place near you, so you can verify colors. Your bridesmaids can then call the boutique directly and the company can place the order all together so the colors are of the same batch. The dresses, once paid for, will be shipped directly to them. 

Post # 8
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I was a BM for a long distance wedding party and the bride wanted us to be uniform.  She went to a store, picked out the dress, and told us the designer, style, and color so we could order it.  Your BMs may be able to find local stores that carry the line or they may have to order from the bridal shop and just give their measurements.

it all worked out fine!

Post # 9
7911 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

NormaJean:  I have long distance bridesmaids and we ordered dresses from Neiman Marcus, who ships ready stock (unlike a made-to-order bridal shop). I placed the order as Im helping with the cost, and they will all be shipped to me and I will ship each dress individually to the girls. In your case, I would just have the orders shipped directly to each of them so you save on international shipping. Maybe you use http://www.weddingtonway.com/ – you can coordinate and they ship internationally. good luck!

Post # 10
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

NormaJean:  I tried to just give my BM’s a color and length and let them pick out their own dress, but this led to lots of questions, complaints and fighting amongst bridesmaids about what to wear. I eventually just flew home to them and we picked out my dress AND theirs. Freedom with bridesmaids dresses seemed like the easiest option but most of them were just frusterated with shopping and wanted me to pick it for them (how hard is it to find a black dress?!) UGH o well..

Post # 11
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would pick a color, and a length if you prefer, and let them choose their dress.

Post # 12
6447 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was in a wedding where all the BMs were scattered. The bride set up an online account at Weddington Way and asked us to choose a black dress by a specific designer. The designer was popular enough that if we wanted to try specific styles on we could go to a local store. All the BMs and the bride added their favorite styles to the ‘show room’ and than we each ended up picking a dress from there.

Post # 13
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

You could use a service like Brideside. They’ve been an amazing help. They’ll send samples. 

All my girls are out of towners, so I’ve selected to go to Alfred Angelo. And I’m going to pick out some styles and let the girls go to their local AA retailer to try them on. Then they can pick the one they like best. 

Post # 14
133 posts
Blushing bee

Pick a designer fabric and color and let them choose the dress if you want them to choose thier own  make sure thier city carries that line . But honestly it’s your wedding you should choose how you want your bridesmaids to look here is a picture with a bride who chose all diff styles by morri lee in the color blush 

Post # 15
367 posts
Helper bee

I’m from Australia with my MOH living in Thailand. I used weddingshoppeinc and ordered the Dessy dresses from there. Just asked everyone to get measured and went with one of my bridesmaids to go in a physical store to see what they looked like in person. The other 2 bridesmaids never even saw the dress in real life. I then let them pick a neckline (I chose the colour) and ordered them online for everyone with the plan to distribute them when they arrive.

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