Long Distance Commiseration

posted 5 days ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 16
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My husband and I were long distance (10hr plane trip) for just over a year and it really did suck! I can understand why you’re feeling down- that is such a dissapointment. But hang in there!!! And I hope your fiance feels better, herniated discs are not nice. Tell him not to rush it!

Post # 17
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Its awful isn’t it!  You try to talk and video and share things throughout your day but it’s just not the same as being together – do you have an end in sight?

I live in the US and my fiance is 7,000 miles away in a different continent – 6 hour time difference and about 18 hours via plane. We have been like this our whole relationship and try to go no more than about 5 months without seeing each other. We hope it will end soon! 

I will say I think it makes the relationship stronger though – most people cant do long distance, so your communication is better and when you’re (finally!) together its better. 

Post # 18
25 posts

mariana1114 :  Oh, I hate it when people tell me that absence quote! It’s awful too, because people who haven’t done it, truly don’t understand it. They ask annoying rhetorical questions about independence and hanging with friends etc. But all that is ridiculous, because yes, I have friends I go o with, yes I have hobbies and other interests, and I’m very close to my family. However, none of that changes the fact that I miss him, and I’m always subconsciously aware he isn’t here. I don’t think it’s too much too understand that I’m going to be bit a bit bummed if I haven’t seen my SO in 3 weeks. 

Post # 22
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

My birthday and my anniversary are next week and we can’t be together.  I’ve been a mess all week and have been feeling very depressed because I miss my husband so much.  Soon after we got married, I had to move 2000km away for work in an isolated place, where I can’t just hop on a plane or drive down and see him for the weekend.  It’s a sacrifice that will benefit us in the long term but it’s so hard, especially on top of having to deal with the challenges of living in an isolated place.  I get to spend all summer with him but I have to come back for one more year of this.  I’m trying my best but it’s not very easy.  I feel you, hugs.

Post # 24
939 posts
Busy bee

Two years bee! My problem is opposite from you however, since he’s self-employed his schedule is very dependent on what work comes up (or rather if it doesn’t come up). This means that he doesn’t know when he’s coming to see me until about two days before any trip.

We live about an hour’s flight apart so last minute tickets can get very expensive. Most days it’s okay, but some days when you’re done it really eats at you not knowing when you’re going to see him next. Hang in there!

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