Long Distance Fiance's?

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

How about giving him a list of vendors to take care of? And that way he can see first hand how much things cost and maybe understand a little better instead of thinking you’re presenting him with the most expensive ones.

When I told my husband how much the photo/video guys we wanted were, he was so like NO WAY we are spending that much. But he really just didn’t have any idea how much those things cost in general.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Haha I totally understand. I think it’s kind of a knee-jerk reaction from guys to just be like OMG MONEY no matter what it is. They don’t really realize all that goes into wedding planning. Give him a deadline to reach out to vendors or get certain things done and if he doesn’t do it by then, you take it back with the understanding that you gave him the opportunity and he can’t really complain now. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

MrsHistory-Bee:  My FI and I are about to be a long distance couple.. He is student teaching two hours away next semsester and will most likely end up with a job at that school when he graduates in May. We are having a long engagement so it is not as stressul for us to plan things. Depending on your timeline, I suggest to take it slow. I suggest that when you bring something up, phrase it like I was thinking this, what do you think? Also ask him if he has a less expensive alternative (or offer him one) if he is worried about finances. I hope this helps! My FI and I are dong 90% of our stuff DIY so our long engament gives us plenty of time to make the items and to save for what we are not making. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Is there an overall budget?  As long as you’ve worked out what you have budget for each item, I’d think you could proceed on your own and keep him informed but not make him have to have these conversations he’d rather not have.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That doesn’t make any sense to me – did he go over the overall budget with you?  If he agreed to it, he agreed to it.

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