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Unlimited local and long distance calling because it hooks up to your internet.
My FI and I are the perpetual LD couple (thanks Navy!). I've deployed for 9 months, 10 months, and currently 7 months. It's important to share your experiences through communication so that you can experience them "together" and grow as a couple. We also mail each other our night t-shirts every month so we have something that smells like the other.
Well, the only advise I can give is talk to each other. I was in Europe studying abroad for 6 months and he was back here working, while we did not get to see eachother over this time we talked every day via a webcam. It helped alot. Good luck!
SKYPE!!! Free and all you need is a webcam. You can talk everynight and see your loved one's face. My FI and I have been living apart for 1 1/2 and have 1 year to go. Skype has been our savior and allows me to show him wedding stuff via the cam too. A great way to avoid fights!
Also send him random cards, notes and care packages. This keeps the romance and excitement alive... and since your only gone 3 months it won't get too old or expensive.
Good luck, seems like a lot of ladies have done long distance so don't worry it will be a breeze!
Thanks guys! I think I just needed to get it out there that we were having a bit of a hard time with it -- express my feelings a bit. I get to see him in just 10 days, which is nothing! And then again 3 weeks after that ... but then not for about 6 weeks. But after that -- I'm home! It really isn't as bad as others have it -- you all are very impressive that you can make your relationships work. I'm so so impressed. We're starting to get a little better about keeping up with each other. And we're taking Miss Cheese's advice and doing a planned weekly wedding recap (maybe not every week since we do have a lot of time) and we are also planning weekly dates on the webcam so that we make it a point to set time for each other. Thanks ladies!
The key is to communicate. I only dated my guy for one month before he trasnferred to another college 10 hours driving away. And then we were long distance for one and half years before we moved in together, finally, for grad school.
Best advice is to just keep on communicating, whether through emails, webcam chatting, phone calls, visits. I think he visited me about once a month.
My fiance and I are professional long distance relationship goers. We spent two semesters living in the same college town, then ended up 30 minutes apart for a semester, then ended up 800 miles apart, then dealt with his deployment for 15 months. Now we're back to the 800 miles apart thing until his contract of service is up in 9 months. No, I'm not counting down! ha. Honestly, the first week is hard, then the first month, and then it gets MUCH easier! Don't sit around and feel sorry for yourself. I made that mistake at first. And I was MISERABLE. Then i said Screw It and started hanging out with my friends more and finding things to do and going to the gym and indulging in my hobbies. You'll have email and the like, so just try to focus on the good things that technology can bring you to keep yourself closer nowadays! Our parents never had that luxury! I think a LDR can bring you closer, so you'll learn a lot about yourselves in the 3 months, and you'll be forced to have conversations more often than you'd think. Instead of you know, bumming on the couch and the like. It's a good experience, and it's short lived, so at least you know it's over after 12 weeks! A webcam IS nice. Even if your connection is not that good, I know my fiance appreciated it when I could email him a video of me saying good morning, and he could let it download while he was at work all day. It makes it seem like there is less distance there. Good luck, though, and best wishes!
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You're not alone! actually, my fiance and I have NEVER EVER lived in the same state in our entire relationship! WOW, that sounds crazy. Literally, we are total pros when it comes to long distance. We met in Switzerland, when we left back for San Francisco, I worked in the UK for about a month. THAT WAS HARD. I was so exchausted everyday at work b/c we were up talking on the phone at strange hours! But it was worth it. Then I headed back to Seattle to finish school while he was and still is in San Francisco.
There's nothing easy about it. However, we have learned to communicate beyond belief. I have never been so confidant in a relationship before. you are forced to communicate your brains out and you learn to appreciate every second you have with that person when you are actually together. So really, it is a blessing in disguise.
Just to give you an idea of our communication skills - skype at night with cameras, gchat during the day at work (even do gchat video sometimes!), text message ALL THE TIME, emails are out of control, even phone calls, blackberry messenger... it goes on and on.
It sounds like you're almost home? and back with your fiance soon? I hope that it wasn't too difficult. But your relationship will be stronger for it!!
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