Post # 1
So I had this talk with my mom lastnight and she was telling me that facebook friends arent real friends and facebook isent a place to make friends so I was wondering how you guys rate your friends?
I rate my friends for local friends best friends(where you confide in them.) Close friends/good friends is someone you hang out with and enjoy being around them, and regular friends is someone who you talk to dailly at work or school but dont hang out outside of school, work, or sports,activities at school and work and exc
Long distance friendships since i moved around a lot, I have my best friends who i again confide into as well as seeing them when i visit them and continuislly make time for me, close friends/good friends are people I would skype with and talk to them on the phone and text of course as well as make time for me when I come to town and visit them. regular friends are people I will facebook, email, or text them once in a while as well as talk to them on the phone or video chat but dont make time to see me when im in town.
so what do you all think of my perception. do 95 percent of americans agree with me on this?
Post # 3
eh… this is hard for me because I moved overseas (from Australia, not US) at the end of last year and still havent made any friends… so I have old friends who I don’t see anymore, Internet friends, and my husbands workmates wives. how the hell are you supposed to make friends when you don’t go to school or work? I mean I work, but I work from home/on the Internet so I don’t have workmates.
but back home I had about six, maybe eight close friends (mostly from high school but a few from uni or old flatmates) and a bunch of work friends and uni friends. I never saw my uni friends outside of uni unless we had group projects or study days, but my work friends often hung out outside of work. I saw my close friends probably once a week, we’d have jigsaw puzzle nights or themed food nights or we’d just go to the pub. they were awesome.
I think that’s why I’m finding it hard to make new friends, I’ve moved so many times and had so many different jobs and different schools and universities… I’m kind of like dammit! it took me twelve years to develop those friendships and for us all to be finally living in the same city! I don’t know if I have the energy to start again…
im so sorry, I’ve kind of not answered your question at all and rambled on about my own problems. I’ll go make dinner now.
Post # 4
I don’t care what the method of communication is, whether irl, by telephone, facebook, email, or snail mail, if you communicate regularly and care for the person, you are friends.
Post # 5
Facebook friends are often acquantainces. So you know them, you don’t hang out with them though, and when you go home/wherever, you don’t meet up with them. In fact it’s fair to say I have facebook friends who I would actively avoid if I could… (I really need to do an FB cleanup!)
I certainly wouldn’t say it’s a place to make friends, although for sure you could become closer through conversations on FB.
Then you have colleagues, close friends and the ‘others’, who maybe you talk to occassionally when you see them but don’t ring/text/email or whatever.
Post # 6
I met my best friend/MOH online (not on Facebook). She happens to live an hour away from me, which I thought was awesome. We’ve been bffs for over 10 years now, and, seeing as she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor, yes, I would consider her a real friend. I have lots of IRL friends on Facebook, simply because it’s much easier to keep in touch with them with our schedules. People move, you meet people elsewhere, etc. Doesn’t mean that they’re any less friends than others. I’m thinking that your mom just doesn’t “get it” when it comes to the internet.
Post # 7
Almost everyone I’m friends with on facebook are people I know in “real” life in some capacity.
But I’ve made a lot of great, lasting friendships that started online – my best friend, whose wedding I was in and who will be in mine, and I met when we were 12 and 14 in an AOL chatroom for Hanson fans. That was 13 years ago. We are as real friends as you can get, even though we only see each other roughly once every couple of years for a few days.
Post # 8
@vorpalette: yep. I met my husband through a friend I made at a meetup for a group of online friends. I met the friend at this meetup, we became fb friends, and he started inviting me to parties he had, which is where I eventually met my husband, who had gone to HS with our mutual friend. Without online friends or facebook, I’d never have met him! And our mutual friend was, of course, a groomsman. (And he is by no means the only “internet friend” I have. I’ve met up with quite a few internet people irl and the friendship you have online translates immediately into your in-person relationship. A relationship is a relationship, no matter the means.)
Post # 9
so let me ask this. if you only talk to someone when you run into them but they dont make time for you as in if i write them a message they havent ever replyed back to you, would that be considered a aquaince?
Post # 10
For me it’s just good friends, best friends, work friends, and acquaintances. My good friends are those who I hang out with from time to time and will talk to them if I run into them. My best friends are those that I can truly count on, confide in them….I used to have a couple of them but now feels like I just have one. Although we barely see each other we still make time to text, chat on facebook, or call each other up once in a while. My work friends are just that only friends at work – I don’t hang outside of work with them and acquaintances are those mainly on facebook. If I only see you like every couple of months and we barely talk to each other and never hang out then that’s what they are to me.
Post # 11
@sinfulli2sweet: thats what mine qualification are somewhat like. I have best friends, good friends/close friends, regular friends and aqauinces.
to be honest with me being a people person I barely consider someone a aquaince. the ony time i consider someone a aquaince is if I know them but dont talk/keep in touch with them on facebook every few months and talk to them only when i see them. i also consider someone a aquaince if they are a person I cant trust at all.
my best friends are people I can confide into, rely on them, and help me out when I need them.
a good friend/close friend are people that I hang out with once in a while or if I live far away from them they make time for me when I come and visit them.
a regular friend is someone I talk to when I am at school or work and not hang out with them outside of school/work. a lot of these regular friends i consider are my friends from high school, and college. if I live far away then i would consider people regular friends if I hit them up on facebook or the phone once in a while and ask them how things are going.